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    Quote Originally Posted by redlipsandpearls View Post
    You may find it a bit easier than most.
    I'm hoping so... I'm hoping my OB may even be able to deem it medically necessary so I can have it all done at once at SJOG Mt Lawley...

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    Can you get in touch with the Family Planning Association, WA? Their feminist approach may be better able to value your own wisdom....

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    Quote Originally Posted by Albert01 View Post
    Can you get in touch with the Family Planning Association, WA? Their feminist approach may be better able to value your own wisdom....

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    That's a really good idea I will try that!

    I feel like I can't blame my Ob- she was amazing but as she works for a catholic (st John if god hospital) organization she was unable to do it unless medically needed
    But the others who think I'm incapable of making my own choices drive me crazy

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    It must be so frustrating! It is a bit paternal isn't it? Ah you can't make your own decisions type thing.

    But in saying that, I seem to be in the phase of second marriages and people needing to get permanent contraception reversed/it not working so having to go through fertility treatment so I kind of get why they are reluctant to do it for a non medical reason.

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    Quote Originally Posted by NoteToSelf View Post
    It must be so frustrating! It is a bit paternal isn't it? Ah you can't make your own decisions type thing.

    But in saying that, I seem to be in the phase of second marriages and people needing to get permanent contraception reversed/it not working so having to go through fertility treatment so I kind of get why they are reluctant to do it for a non medical reason.
    Sadly, it's actually gotten better than it used to be! 25 odd years ago my mum could not get it done without her husband signing the permission form!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Stretched View Post
    Sadly, it's actually gotten better than it used to be! 25 odd years ago my mum could not get it done without her husband signing the permission form!!
    Goodness me!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Stretched View Post
    Sadly, it's actually gotten better than it used to be! 25 odd years ago my mum could not get it done without her husband signing the permission form!!
    "honey, can you sign my excursion slip?"

    It's terrible. What a system.
    I would have liked to get mine done after DD, but I was still 29 (a month off turning 30) and they said no.

    But, you know, it's ok, coz like I just keep takings my mini pill, which like, I'm not at allll forgetful about, and we'll just like, hope for the best. Thank goodness I have the doctors to think for meeeee!

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    I'm glad I'm not alone in this !
    I understand reversal etc is difficult and potentially impossible but given I understand the consequences of my choice and I am still sure they should let me do it

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    Oh, honey, I see their point - a woman's sensibilities are far too fragile to make such a decision for herself. Are you sure the problem isn't that you are trying to attend appointments on your own? Next time, make sure you bring your husband to your appointment, so that he can ask for the procedure on your behalf. Be sure to bring some needlepoint with you, so that you have something useful to do while the menfolk talk about the confusing surgery and the like.

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    I've never had this problem as I'm still having kids but I know of heaps of people who've been refused. I know one girl who had her first at 16 and had 6 by the time she was 24. She wanted her tubes tied after number 6 and they wouldn't let her because of her age. She already had 6!! Pretty sure she would know if she wanted more.

    I get that they think people might change their minds but if they do, so what? That's their problem, they made their choice. You can decide to have an abortion (which is also irreversible and may lead to regret later on) so you should definitely be able to get your tubes tied.

    Sorry, I know I've offered no help but this lack of choice makes me angry.


 

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