Sounds like a rough night.
I wonder why she went crazy after her bedtime feed. Do you do it in her room? I have always done bath then into bedroom for dry / dress / feed for both mine. Then after milk feed it is burp then straight into bed. I do it without the lights on at the moment too, trying to set the mood!! Touch wood overall it has worked so far.
I know I had to have words with DH about coming home from work and amping the kids up. I know he hasn't seen them all day but bath onwards is wind down time. Could this be contributing?