Hello All lovely BubHubbers ,
I have lurked in the corners for quite sometime (sounds highly inappropriate doesn't it!)
Just a (hopefully brief) background I am 28 next month and DH turned 34 this year. We moved to Melbourne from NZ about 18 months ago and before moving over we visited an IVF clinic to find out why I have had 4 miscarriages.
We received the 'delightful' news that DH has a low count of around 700 or 750 thousand and motility about ... 15%? Maybe slightly less. Which was a TOTAL shock - FS was gobsmacked we managed to get pregnant the 4 x to miscarry in the first place as he said we would 100% need ICSI IVF
So we didn't do much with the information as we were saving to move to Melbourne although FS did tell us that if we wanted to go ahead with IVF we would need to keep in mind time is a factor as my miscarriage risk elevates with age and DH stats will only decline with time also.
ANYWAY fast forward two (I now feel wasted) years and it has come to crunch time - there is many things we want to do financially but IVF always lurks in the conversation so DH has now called make or break time as he has always wanted to be a dad (and he would be a rockstar father ) but wanted to before 30 and now feels it is too late.
It has taken a very long time for me to get my head around this being the path for us and so on the 18th we are meeting with Dr Barak of MIVF to go over NZ results and talk a game plan so we can gather all the financial information etc and make an informed decision. It is nerve wracking I don't like the idea of the strain IVF will put us through but I also don't want to regret our decision in years to come of not even trying! I am trying to think along the lines of "but what if I fall?", "Oh but my darling what if you fly?"
So anyway just wanted to say hello and looking forward to a lot of chats with all you lovely supportive people