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    "At least you have 1 child!" This is what someone said to me

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    I'm so sorry that anyone here has had to go through a miscarriage let alone dealing with insensitive people that obviously don't think before they speak (or even worse just don't think past themselves). My DH and I have suffered 3 miscarriages. Also 1 still birth and the death of our 3 month old daughter. I've heard it all too. The most common is "oh well everything happens for a reason". I LOATH this saying and shudder anytime I hear someone say it ..... For any reason. My FIL has even brought up religious reasons for why our daughter may have passed away. Makes me feel soooooo mad!! On the other hand I also don't like people pretending the pregnancy didn't exist. Someone once said to me that talking about her losses was tough but it was more painful when friends and family ignored the fact that she was pregnant and did loose a child. I find this to be so true.

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    At least it happened early.
    It wasn't really a baby at that stage.
    Don't worry about it, my psychic friend says she sees you holding your baby in the future (My MIL has said this after every one of my miscarriages)
    Why aren't you back to normal yet?
    For me the worst is 'at least it shows you can fall pregnant' - wasn't comforting the first time & by the time I'd had my third I wanted to punch everyone who said it.

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    "Are you still sad about that?"

    About five months after my miscarriage. Yes, I'm still effing sad, thanks for asking!

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    The worst for me was
    It's better that it happened now than there being something wrong with it later

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    The best and worst has been said by two separate male colleagues...

    "But you got over it and moved on with your life" ... Ah ... no di*khead, I just didn't have red puffy eyes at work anymore.

    "You'll always be a mum of those little ones. You're a mum of three, not one." (This was before I had announced we were expecting DS).

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    Quote Originally Posted by Que Sera View Post
    "You'll always be a mum of those little ones. You're a mum of three, not one." (This was before I had announced we were expecting DS).
    I know from being in m/c groups that women often struggle with Mother's Day and whether they have a 'right' to celebrate it with no earthside kids. I always said of course they did!

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    My worse was "you need to move on. We all lose people."

    That hurt ...


 

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