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    Cut your inlaws some slack, there are heaps worse things they could be doing like abusing your DH or ignoring your kids.

    I haven't heard anything to suggest they see it as a gift giving competition. Are you sure this is not about how you feel rather than your inlaws intentions? Ie your family overseas are too tight/unable to give your kids toys so you feel bad for then when the inlaws give lots of toys?

    I find it rude when people request what to give them/their kids for Christmas... That being said perhaps your inlaws didn't ignore your request. Perhaps they had already stocked up on the kids gifts at the half yearly toy sales. If you want to drop hints about presents you need to do it before the half yearly toy sales...

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    I think when the grand parents are spending consistently more on gifts than the parents do with the intention of quantity over quality just to see their eyes light up at the joy of opening presents only for the parents to deal with the devastation of those toys breaking or getting lost later on then it is time to deal with the issue of over spending and over buying.

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    Quote Originally Posted by DesperatelySeekingSleep View Post
    I think when the grand parents are spending consistently more on gifts than the parents do with the intention of quantity over quality just to see their eyes light up at the joy of opening presents only for the parents to deal with the devastation of those toys breaking or getting lost later on then it is time to deal with the issue of over spending and over buying.
    I have these in laws! My mil buys a lot of it at the op shop (I have no objection to that) and I think she then feels she can buy more for the same amount of money. It's nothing for each grand kid to have 7 presents to unwrap on Christmas Day and she wonders why they get sick of opening them and won't pose with them for the hundreds of photos she wants to take. I would much rather 1 present and for her to spend some one on one time with them during the year.

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    My mum spends over 300 on each grand child at Xmas and they usually have 10 or more presents to open. Some years they get more from Nana and pop than they do from me and dp or Santa or both put together! We actually quite often need to take a trailer to their place at Xmas time!

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    Quote Originally Posted by DesperatelySeekingSleep View Post
    My mum spends over 300 on each grand child at Xmas and they usually have 10 or more presents to open. Some years they get more from Nana and pop than they do from me and dp or Santa or both put together! We actually quite often need to take a trailer to their place at Xmas time!
    $300! That's a lot of money.

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    Quote Originally Posted by DesperatelySeekingSleep View Post
    My mum spends over 300 on each grand child at Xmas and they usually have 10 or more presents to open. Some years they get more from Nana and pop than they do from me and dp or Santa or both put together! We actually quite often need to take a trailer to their place at Xmas time!
    That's insane!!

    I guess I just have an issue with overspending/too many gifts in general. So much of it is plastic rubbish that ends up in landfill. And after the 4th or 5th present the kids are just ripping through the wrapping and tossing the gifts aside, barely even looking at them. So the giver isn't getting that special 'eyes lighting up' moment from the kids. I'd rather quality over quantity, and for special occasions to be about spending time with family. But having said that, I won't deny others the joy of giving to DS... but if they ask what to get him, or prattle off a long list of things they intend on buying him, I'll politely state my 'less is more' mantra!

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    They must get a lot of enjoyment out of giving and hopefully your child will learn that from his grandparents.
    He could also learn to respect other peoples believes and values by you respecting your in laws, not just them accepting yours.

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    You are all so lucky to have grandparents to spoil your kids. My kids only have dh and I... I'm sad for my kids having no one to spoil them

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    Your children will not become brats by being spoilt by their grandparents a few times a year.
    Relax a bit and enjoy that people love your children so much that they want to spoil them. And really, isn't Christmas all about spoiling kids!
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    Ha I wish my in laws would spend a bit more on their grandchildren.. theres only 3 of them too. They give them only $10 each.. that's it.. oh and they are totally rolling in it as well so it's not like they are poor.. These are the kind of people who will buy a $800 dress and not blink an eyelid.


 

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