My ILs are trying to make Christmas into a gift giving competition. My family lives overseas so they dont usually give toys but they ILs keep doing it. They have done this with all the other grandkids and its something my DH and I have spoken up about and never approved of a million times before DS was born that we dont like it and Christmas is not about overloading kids with toys.
Now that DS is born we talked to my ILs that we dont want them to do this as we want to teach him the value that Christmas is not about mountains of toys. So DH sent his mum a text last week asking for clothes a size up of what DS is in now as we dont have any in that size yet and DS is too little to remember toys anyway. He has plenty of toys as it is because every time ILs visit they bring toys and toys. MIL never responded.
Anyway today MIL sends me a text that she bought DS toys for Xmas anyway and she will also buy more clothes for him on top of that.
How can i get them to back off? i know they are excited about DS but ****, we dont want him to grow up with that materialistic behaviour like his cousins here in DHs part of the family. why cant they just for once not listen to DH and me and respect our boundaries??? its like they are trying to buy DSs love. on a side note, for years and years the ILs have treated me like an intruder and i can write a book about that i wouldnt have enough space.
I want to send her a text that one present for christmas is enough but i dont know how to in a polite way. BTW two months later it will be DSs first birthday so he will get even more toys then and we simply dont have the room for it and he is too little to remember it all. I hate how they turn everything into a gift giving competition and then they make me feel guilty for not wanting to participate in their ways.