In the early days I had DH spend a Saturday with our twins while I was still around the house, but all I did was feed at the usual times, then hand them back. Even while I was feeding I pointed out jobs like washing he could get done while I fed (of course this is more than i got to do but i was being kind...ha!) While he had the babies I did gardening, cleaned, had a break to phone a girlfriend etc for the whole day. And was available for questions. He was so tired at the end of it! This was the beginning of his understanding.
As time went on, on another day, while he minded the twins, I left a list of the usual jobs that get done in a day too. So he now got the full experience. This added to his understanding.
Since then he has left weekends up to me. If I want to take time to myself or get jobs done I can, he does all routine stuff with the twins. Generally I choose to be around he and the bubs but knowing I can take time if I want it is a great thing. I'll never forget how wrecked he looked after that first day and I don't think he's ever forgotten either
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