I'm trying to make my mind up on whether dh and I should move towns. I think I know what I want to do, but I wanted to get some second opinions first. I'm not sure - given how I've been recently - if I'm being rash or it's a genuinely good idea.
So dh and I currently live in a larger regional town. Dh's parents also live there along with one of his siblings and their partner. We moved there about 4 years ago.
Where we live now is okay, but only okay. I have no friends outside work and, while work has been great for the first 3.5 years, I don't love it anymore. I don't feel like there are any opportunities for me to grow and developed. It's also become rather unpleasant for a number of reasons and is not getting better.
Then there is dh's family. I cannot stand his parents. I'm sure in small doses I could but being so close is driving me mad. They interfere in everything, they push there agenda and if you don't agree then they chuck hissy fits. I'm seriously terrified when we do have children my mil will be too hard to deal with given she needs to have a say on everything we do.
I get on okay with dh's brother and his wife but even then they have proved a few times they are really out for themselves and are happy to put us down to get what they want.
So now a job has come up that would suit me in my home town. It's with a good firm and I am very qualified for the position.My parents live in my hometown as does my sister. My parents are very laid back and happy for dh and I to do whatever. I get a little frustrated sometimes because I would like them to be a bit more vocal sometimes but they don't want to pressure us.
To move we would have to sell our house and, if I got the job, dh would be going without any work lined up. I'm sure he'd find something soon but it's still a scary thought. I'm also scared of telling my boss I'd be leaving, we have become friends over the years and I don't know how she would take it.
I'm also a bit worried about a financial loss if we sold our house. I'm confident we would get back at least what we paid for it but then we would have to pay stamp duty on a new house.
I think we should move - but those few things are eating at me but I'm not sure they are reasons to stay.