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    Quote Originally Posted by brookeallisa View Post
    Haha..we dont have any babies to worry about yet, so its all about the bd
    Ha ha well yes enjoy.

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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    Porn is not 'the' issue but people's view on it is clouding the advice given the OP.

    I agree the hiding thing is a sign of a bigger problem.
    is it?

    Sorry but but I just see your comments as inflammatory (whether you meant it or not) as the usual VP blaming the victim approach. Everyone should change their thinking, get counselling or grow some balls, rather than focusing on the actual person in the wrong/the one abusing their position.

    Victims attitudes, lifestyle etc. have nothing to do with why they are being wronged. So while you say pron affects people's attitudes.... It's completely irrelevant if it actually does or doesn't.

    Thanks for explaining where you're coming from either way though.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ellewood View Post
    is it?

    Sorry but but I just see your comments as inflammatory (whether you meant it or not) as the usual VP blaming the victim approach. Everyone should change their thinking, get counselling or grow some balls, rather than focusing on the actual person in the wrong/the one abusing their position.

    Victims attitudes, lifestyle etc. have nothing to do with why they are being wronged. So while you say pron affects people's attitudes.... It's completely irrelevant if it actually does or doesn't.

    Thanks for explaining where you're coming from either way though.
    * I am confused. Where have I victim blamed? Said people's attitudes/lifestyle are the reason they have been wronged? It certainly wasn't in the post you quoted. Sure I think the OP was wrong for snooping however I believe a cheater should be held accountable. I have said sometimes people use porn/cheat to get action which they may not be getting at home. I stand by this. I'm not saying it's the victims fault at all... Perhaps a couple is not having sex because the man is an @rsehole, who knows. If you still have concerns that I have victim blamed please let me know So I can either clarify, apologise or tell you I meant what was written.

    * I think people's view on porn affects the degree to which they think things like online sex chatting are bad. I was actually referring (in my mind at least!) to people giving the OP advice, and not the OP/victim (although it could probably apply to a victim as well). I stand by this. People's experiences, morals and culture affect their views all the time. This is nothing new This doesn't mean I'm saying those who think differently have invalid opinions. I am not suggesting those who have a less tolerant view of porn change their opinions.

    * I haven't (in this thread) said anyone should "grow some #####". Perhaps the views you have formed on myself in other threads is clouding your response to my posts in this thread?.
    - a related note, the phrase "grow some ****" is now a banned phrase on BH. I won't report your post, but I thought I would let you know because I wouldn't want you to get in trouble

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    Quote Originally Posted by BH-KatiesMum View Post
    ok - we are getting a bit away from the OP's problem though.

    Perhaps start another thread to chat about they "why do they do that" aspect ... and leave this one for supporting the OP.
    Sorry just reread this. If people want to start another thread I may contribute. If people want to ask a question about what I have meant in any of my posts perhaps they could PM me?

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    Hoe can I get admin to delete my topic it has gotten out of control

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    You can report it and they will go from there

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    I've reported it for you OP, so a mod can close it

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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    I wouldn't say it's a completely different kettle of fish. It's anonymous.... And all about getting your rocks off because you have too much free time on your hands/aren't getting what you 'need' at home.
    Omg are you freaking serious...

    I had to read the lead up to make sure I wasn't reading one comment out of context.

    Before this gets shut down, in response to op, yes I would confront dp. As far as I'm aware he does not know I'm on BH bit I doubt he would care anyway. But.. There is a massive difference between sex chat and parent forum chat.

    *walks away because this has just got too absurdly and ridiculously crazy for me to even read along*
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