Bit of history..
Df and I have two LOs, 8 & 1. Our eldest is mine from a previous relationship, df was always adamant he only wanted one child and that once we had one together (dd) that we we're done.
Fast forward to after dd was born and df has been so smitten, he never realised how amazing having a baby would be and how much he would love it more so than he loved being a step dad.
So about 6mths ago we started discussing if we would have another LO and when. We agreed then that it wasn't the time and we should wait at least until I am back at work to build our finances back up again after being on 12mths mat leave. We have made occasional comments about names we hear and if we would like a girl or boy etc since then.
So out of nowhere DF announces the other night he has decided he doesn't want anymore kids, he's happy with how things are and wants a vasectomy. I wonder if this mostly comes from the fact that he is almost 40 and is starting to feel his age?
I'm really confused now and we seem to be a bit stuck with neither of us willing to compromise. I don't feel 100% done having kids and willing to commit to such a definitive procedure, DF isn't budging and keeps saying we can't afford another child and he won't take the risk of us falling pregnant.
What do you do when you can't agree on having more kids or not? I understand to an extent this is his body, but we are a partnership so I would be really hurt if he went ahead with such a life changing decision like this without my support or behind my back.