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    Default Baby announcement etiquette - what do you think?

    this morning I noticed a few posts in my facebook newsfeed where people were congratulating my friend on the birth of her baby. While my first reaction was "yay the baby is here!" that was followed quickly by surprise that people were congratulating her so publicly when neither her or her partner have made the announcement on Facebook yet. Some of the posts even included the baby's name! So here's my question, is this acceptable facebook behaviour (in which case I'm being a bit of a fuddy duddy) or should people wait for the parents to announce? Thoughts?

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    Absolutely they should wait! I would be so angry if it were me!

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    Unacceptable. In every circumstance.

    Not your baby= not your announcement.

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    I hate it when people don't let the parents announce! It's not your news, so shut up! I always feel like they want to let everyone know that they were special enough to be told before the general public lol

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    A couple of people posted on my FB page before I `announced', I did not really care to be honest. I'm sure it's not the `done thing' but I am not really fussed on worrying about having my thunder stolen or anything like that.

    If someone was really concerned they could just change their FB settings so no one can post to their wall or tag them without their approval.

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    If people know before the announcement is made by the parents, it's usually because they know them well enough to have their number to text through their congratulations. I think when people do this, it's because they want everyone else to know that they knew first. It really irks me!

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    If that happened to me I would be really upset. I understand people get excited and they mean well but It's not their news. I'm sure they secretly get some kick out of being the first to know and need everybody else to know that they were first to find out. I made sure the immediate family we told straight after the birth knew that it was not to be mentioned on Fb until we had a chance. I also deactivated my wall and changed my settings so people needed my permission to tag me in things. My sisters friend announced my sister's new bubba on fb a few weeks ago and I was pretty upset considering I hadn't heard from my sister yet! I was even waiting at the hospital having my own appointments.

    Having said that though, some people don't seem to mind.
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    Absolutely they should wait! It's not their news to announce!
    This happened to me when my twins were born. They were born at 3:36pm and 3:41pm and by the time I got out of recovery and into the SCN to meet them both properly, people had already congratulated me on my page. It wasn't until about 7pm I got back to my room to be able to even think about posting.

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    Completely unacceptable!

    Although, if it were me, I would have disabled wall posting for that time so I could take my time and announce it myself!

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    Unacceptable.


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