I will not give full details here but I hope to give enough information to get some help.
I am so worried about my MIL (nearly 80) and need some advice. MIL is a lovely, gentle, kindhearted soul, and is rather gullible.
MIL rang DH this week to tell him she had met a lovely man which we think would be nice, we understand how lonely she has been since FIL passed a few years ago.
MIL didn't tell us how old he is but said 'much younger' than her. MIL then went on to tell us the this new man has told her about his financial hardships, struggle with unemployment and inability to find anywhere to live. MIL then told us she thinks she will have him move in with her (his idea).
This is the first time she has even mentioned this man or any possible relationship and we are in very regular contact. I think this is all very very new and that things are moving strangely fast.
This man is supposedly a prominent figure in the city he is from however MIL has not met any of his friends or family.
MIL is fairly well off and not very savvy and I am worried she will let this guy in and he will take her money and ruin her life.
My biggest hope is that this guy is genuine and that MIL will be truly happy but it just doesn't feel right to me.
We will be going to see MIL tomorrow and we said we would 'love to meet 'x'. I figure we have to be careful to not get to defensive and just go in with an open mind.
What should we ask this guy or do to work out if he is the real deal?
How do we tell MIL how concerned we are for her without offending her?
Hope someone has some words of advice...