DS and i went to a friends house yesterday for a catch up and play date. My friend has a 3yo and a 4mo. She's a sahm who is very house proud.
Whenever i take DS out, if he plays with their toys and leaves them laying around (as toddlers do) before we leave i make him clean it all up ... and i do it with him of course.
I feel like I am doing the right thing by DS and the people we are visiting... I am teaching him manners and respect of other peoples belongings, as well as showing people that we wont just come and trash the place then leave.
My friend seemed to become very irritated while we were having a little tidy up bee... i involved her son too but he was not interested and kept playing and making mess (he's only 3)
Instead of encouraging him to help clean she screamed at him to stop making mess, and then snapped at me to stop. I realised then she was anxious.
I thought i was doing the right thing... i don't want my child to think he can mess peoples houses .... but i was told to stop my parenting more or less and told i was wrong.
Then i received a facebook message from her this morning telling me she loved having us over, but she has been feeling awful all night about the fact I felt i had to tidy up after the kids and that she doesn't make her son do that and feels with me being pregnant i need to rest more. And next time she wont allow it.
I responded, as i do without realising the issue at first, and just said "Oh no love it wasn't a bother at all, i am teaching DS to clean up after himself so he knows to be respectful at peoples houses." i also complimented her (again) at how spotless her house is and she does a wonderful job keeping it that way with 2 young kids.
Anyways now I have had no response from her. And now i am left feeling like I have really peeved her off by doing it... her getting angry about it yesterday surely is a sure sign she didn't like it, i know. and then we were sort of rushed out of the door... I think she feels i am trying to show her son up which I am not at all I have no idea what her son is like at other peoples houses. And i know my DS surely plays up more at home than other peoples houses so the fact her son played up so much is not for me to judge at all.
Thoughts? Do you think it would have looked like i was trying to show her and her son up or something? Would anyone here be offended by what I did? I just thought its important to teach them from a young age ... I would never tell a friend off for doing this, myself.