Yay @Kelly70 let's go girl!!
Yay for witchy! Got my fingers crossed Kel!
Thanks girls!! Excited to try again.
Hey this is off topic a bit but interested to hear your thoughts. I know a couple of the single girls here recently had guys hanging around (Jem, Kel) - I've always thought it impossible to mix this ivf thing with dating - what do you think?
Is it a bad thing to go on a date with a guy with ivf happening in the background and not tell them? I mean if things started to work out between you, you'd have to tell them ultimately? Then what, some guys would run I reckon. I mean it's tempting but is it too complicated potentially?
@Kelly70 I think you can go on dates especially if it's just casual in the beginning. If it becomes more serious i think you'd be forgiven for not saying it up front. When you meet the right person most things can get forgiven
Yippee for AF and beginning again. We must be the only group of women that get excited about the thought of AF and sticking numerous needles in ourselves.
As for dating, if it is just casual I say go for it. Have a bit of fun! This process is so all consuming we sometimes forget to have a life. Last weekend I managed to have a bubbles or two, socialise and be my normal self for a few hours and it felt so good. What's the worst that can happen?!?! Isn't there a Jen Lopez movie on this topic.
Hmm - I'm going to give a different perspective. I finally went on a date early last week with the 'possibility' I had in the background.
He is FAR too young (which is another debate) but I actually think the experience contributed to me getting quite depressed. If you want something casual, or just a flirtation, why not. But if you are seriously interested in someone, the timing is going to be an issue. I honestly don't see many men in the first weeks of a relationship agreeing to take on a donor pregnancy - there are always exceptions but I haven't met one.
My final decision was to just keep it friendly for now and revist down the track if we are both in the same place. I only have less than 12 months to resolve the baby issue before the odds are 0% so I really don't have the time to start second guessing myself - and I was. Your brain has enough ups and downs to deal with.
At the end of the day - each to their own decision and @Kelly70 I'd back your decision whichever way you wanted to go, because that's the wonderful community we have built here.
But I have to be honest about my experience so you can weigh up both sides. I potentially have decades to find a man if I want to. I only have 11 months left to have a shot at my own genetic baby.
Last edited by Jem70; 08-10-2014 at 18:54.
Jem - just wanted to express my support for what you said above (" your brain has enough ups and downs to deal with"). Thinking of you for this cycle.
Littlesparrow, glad to hear you've been able to enjoy things and socialise.
Kelly, good luck for this cycle, will be thinking of you too xx
Kelly best of luck for this cycle, also nothing wrong with dating casually. Doing ivf is an emotional time and not sure how much the mind can take if you introduce something new. Jem, I always had a thing for younger men, and still do lol.
Angie had a better night last night, she slept in 4 hour stints between feeds which meant I did too.
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