@Jem70 - yes I kept sending my donors back and asking for different ones, they were mostly inappropriate (I had a Sri Lankan guy in one of my batches). I saw one that had bipolar in his family history as well and that's where I started getting a little p*ssed at MIVF for not proving better choices. I mean the donor fees there are pretty hefty! I like the way Monash does it where you pay as you go so to speak, rather than 4 cycles upfront.
Gosh imagine we had ended up preg to the same donor - now there's a special bond!!