I assume @anewme means the password for iTunes.
How could someone abuse a passcode to unlock an iPad? Even my 5 year old can unlock her own iPad.
Yes, it was definitely $4600 :-) These are excellent parents of three respectful, polite and intelligent kids. They aren't dumb. They aren't neglectful. The kids don't spend all day every day zoning out on technology. The system had clearly been working for a while. I think the reason DD has/had the code in the first place is for long car trips if they want to download music or something like that. Well that's where it started. It was uncharacteristic behaviour from the son, which I think may be why, as some PPs suggested, they had such a heavy handed response. I also think that despite being a clever kid it's an alarming sign that he didn't understand that it was real money he was spending. I think that's something for everyone to be aware of in this digital age.
I guess what I was most curious about was the youngest child being involved in the punishment because I don't have three children myself. Like, whether it was a case of them saying 'well you've blown it for everyone now' or just something that could've been better thought out. Thanks for all your responses. It's been an interesting read :-)
It doesn't matter how good your kids and how good you are as a parent. Kids do stupid things sometimes because they are kids. Their brain aren't finished growing. Making a bad decision can often teach us more than a thousand good decision.
Yes when we as parents give our kids that extra trust we take a risk that they may stuff up. But when you weigh that risk with teaching you kids to be a responsible, trustworthy, independent person. The good out weighs the bad.
The problem I have, is that we got the IPad through funding for DS2 for his ASD. Often ASD kids become obsessed by certain things. This is where it became a problem for us. I can absolutely see how it would be ok for NT kids. Having said that though - there are studies coming out all the time saying that the majority of Aussie kids are not playing outside enough and spending to much time on computers etc. I'm not saying you specifically - but our society as a whole has definitely changed - in the way kids play and spend their time etc. And not for the best either.
The punishment seems unfair on the youngest (who wasn't involved) and perhaps harsh on the daughter (who didn't think very carefully but didn't do anything intentionally deceitful). But to be fair to the parents, I expect they went into shock, then total meltdown when they saw the total. I would have probably lost my shiz completely and included the dog and the neighbours in the punishment. Holy moly!
I also understand that an 8 year old would know he was being naughty sneaking a purchase, but I have no idea if they would be able to comprehend the enormity of the total. Would he really understand the real life meaning of spending $3 vs $30 vs $300 vs $3000? I have no idea. As you say, I can see how a nice kid that wants to play a game could make a moderate sized mistake in the heat of the moment (getting password and sneaking a purchase) that quickly spiralled out of control to become a credit card catrastophe.
The parents are nincompoops for giving their 11 year old the passcode: they need to accept some responsibility.
1 month ban for dd and ds1 is rather lenient.
IMO dd1 should have got 2 months and ds1 4 months (proportional to their level of blame). The youngest shouldn't have been banned at all.
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