Since she was born, dd was a difficult unsettle baby. Never went with any sort of structured or even any remote 'routine', never fed well on milk infact she hated it. Started solids at 5mths and she was a lot happier. She Barely slept.
She developed slowly. Didn't crawl untill 12mths. Didn't walk untill 17mths. Wouldn't talk or use any words untill 3. We had speech therapy and crèche seemed to make her progress better. Now she speaks fine.
Dh is the most gentile calm natured person.
the last year I've seen him crack because of dd.
she is strong willed, stubborn, unwilling to listen to anything we say, short temper, and the tantrums can last 1hr to days on end.
Shes quite anxious, needs to know what's happening all the time. If it's not the way she's like, BOOM! She blows a fuse.
At at my wits end, I put her in extra day at crèche. So now she goes 3days.
her carers saw the first of her tantrums and how she behaves. They said she is challenging, that they had to be firm on her. (I have no problem with).
which relieved me a little because it's not just me who can't deal with dd!
im taking parenting classes. I just don't know how to handle her. Friends and family say "you think she's bad now wait till she's a teenager......"
well as unhelpful as that is, I need to nip it in the bud.
i just have no control over her.
we sit and talk later on about what made her upset, but it's like talking to a wall. She won't have a bar about talking about her feelings and emotions.
Everything has has to be negotiated. It's exhausting.
We will use the park as a behaviour reward and tell her what we expect of her while at the park, and warn her before we are leaving. 1hr later we are still at the park screaming about not getting in the car. If I pick her up she will bite and and scratch and YELL "OWCH STOP HURTING ME I DONT LIKE IT!" In public- makes me feel horrible like I abuse her or something.
please, what can I do for her?