We have 10 week old baby plus 5&7 year old. I was struggling with being sahm before this surprise pregnancy. I love my kids but hate that they are growing up seeing my role as Cook/cleaner. Dp has well paid stressful job so whenever I try and get him to help I feel useless like I can't even look after the house despite fact I never planned to be in this role and it's completely eroding my sense of self. Being sahm has put a massive wedge between us in that we can't relate to each other. I'm just curious as to how much others get help with domestic chores??