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    Default 6 year old having toilet issues.. at a loss to stop him soiling his underwear.

    I honestly don't know what to do anymore.

    Ever since his grommet surgery, DS has been soiling his pants everyday.

    We realised the anaesthetic may have had an impact, and the fibre worked for a few days but he has continued to soil his pants after school. His surgery was three weeks ago.

    I'm getting genuinely upset about this, he was completely toilet trained and now this. It upsets me because he doesn't change his pants and its not until you walk in and smell it that he even changes his underwear.

    Gosh, someone help please! I'm at a complete loss, nothing is working.

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    Bumps for you. Do you think it's psychological now or a physical problem. Can he tell you why he is doing it?

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    We are dealing with this with our 7 year old.... Google encopresis.....it can come on from stress and is unfortunately common in boys in this age group.... I hope that there is another explanation for your wee man because there seems to be no quick fix. It really is distressing for all concerned. Hugs.

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    I feel your pain. I have been dealing with with my 5 year old girl. She had been soiling or wetting nearly every day at school. I saw the child psychologist at the school and he explained that a lot of the time in children this age it can be linked to some form of stress the child is or has experienced. For my daughter I believe this was the case. While I couldn't change that fact I could approach the toilet training issue a little differently.
    I sang songs with her about 'sneaky poos' and how it tries to trick her and how she needs to try best it to the toilet. I bought her a watch that you can set a vibrating timer for throughout the day at school to remind her to go to the toilet. It was a great way as it was discrete and avoided any embarrassment from the teachers having to remind her.
    The biggest thing was to remain 100% positive. I know it is hard especially if you start feeling like they are not trying bit you have to put that aside and use positive encouragement only. Never, never, never let them see that you are upset or angry as this will can increase the stress ad make it worse.
    I have been doing this intensely for the last 2 weeks and the last 1 and a half she has only had one accident.
    Good luck x

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    My DS1 has had this issue and it turns out it was due to come cereal he was eating, I noticed I was going a fair bit when I started eating it and put the two two together and we have had minimal issues since I stopped buying it including wetting himself at school/leaking.

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    We had a very similar problem last year with DD1. It was getting so bad that she actually gave herself a UTI. For her it was because they had found a rat in the toilet at school and one of the girls said it had bit her so DD refused to use the toilet. Same thing this year with DD2 who's 5. Luckily it's all sorted now but I can understand your frustration, it's like going back to toilet training after so many years. Perhaps try and see if there are any more reasons why he is doing it? Does he actually know when he is going to wee? With grommets they usually only use gas and not a full GA which you would think the gas would have no real affect but perhaps the stress from the surgery could be the issue?

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    My 5 year old DS has been struggling with encopresis for the past year. We are currently seeing an Occupational Therapist who specialises in toileting and are hoping this will help. I feel like we have tried everything and it's so stressful for everyone.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mkj View Post
    Bumps for you. Do you think it's psychological now or a physical problem. Can he tell you why he is doing it?
    I think it is a little of both to be honest He is definitely very sensitive, especially to change.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BabyG4 View Post
    We had a very similar problem last year with DD1. It was getting so bad that she actually gave herself a UTI. For her it was because they had found a rat in the toilet at school and one of the girls said it had bit her so DD refused to use the toilet. Same thing this year with DD2 who's 5. Luckily it's all sorted now but I can understand your frustration, it's like going back to toilet training after so many years. Perhaps try and see if there are any more reasons why he is doing it? Does he actually know when he is going to wee? With grommets they usually only use gas and not a full GA which you would think the gas would have no real affect but perhaps the stress from the surgery could be the issue?
    As he had his adenoids out at the same time he was placed under GA. I think it is psychological now, but didn't start out that way.

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    Lots and lots of fibre (I find the Mcvities digestives biscuits work well), lots of fluids.


 

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