@Bongley I'm so so sorry to hear hun I really thought this would be ur cycle , I hope your taking care of yourself physically and emotionally … massive hugs … xxx
AFM had lap, hysteroscopy and d&c yesterday and everything was normal except for very minimal endo on my left ovary but he said it literally a speck or two so there's basically no reason why he could see why my last two transfers have been bfn I no it sounds weird but I kinda wanted something to be found so I had a reason for things not working now I'm abit lost because well 5 transfer and no baby… I have two FS I'm thinking of transferring two have appnts and will choose one hoping they have a different perspective on things 😊
@miissalina I know how frustrating it can be when they just can't say why it is not happening. I went through similar feelings after 2 m/cs and 3 failed transfers I did all sorts of tests and just wanted them to find something so they could fix it. But then the fourth turned out to be the lucky one for me without really doing anything different (except I did start taking low dose asprin, which I am still taking). While it probably doesn't seem like it now it is actually a good thing that they couldn't find anything. Hang in there, it will happen. Hopefully it will be lucky number 6 for you.
@Bellydance thank you, I really hope I do get lucky with transfer number 6, I've had two Chems and 3 bfn and other than high nk cells in my uterus nothing else seems wrong. we have decided that if this last fet doesn't work we are changing clinics and doing pgd testing so at least we can rule out if it's an embryo issue or not. We will be 10k oop but I'm at the point I'm willing to try anything, it's very frustrating not being able to pin point a reason and just fix it I guess lack of control is what I'm finding hard to deal with sometimes.
miissalina I think I am all out of rant! I'm feeling pretty disappointed really which is a bit of an understatement. We are going to have a break for a couple of months and just try and absorb the fact that we are at the end and see how it feels. I think if I pushed it we could try another cycle but I have really lost faith that it will work. If my partner was on board I would try the donor route but I don't think he wants to do that. So we just wait for now. I'll book myself into see a counselor in jan and hopefully that might help clear my head too......
I'll be keeping tabs on this thread to see how you do though
Sending you huge hugs @Bongley. It's so hard to stop and hard to continue. I remember feeling guilty that I wanted another, as we know how lucky we are to have one- but it's hard when you feel like your family is not complete- I also think partners/dh just don't get that sometimes. When we were deciding to go again, I remember saying to dh that I already love the baby that might not happen- hard to explain but just how I saw our family. We are here any time you need us xxx
@Bongley I'm so sorry to hear that I had really hoped this would be your lucky one. I hope the counseling helps a little and that you are able to make your peace with whatever you and your DH decide moving forward. You know where we are xx and I have to say, whether you have one child or ten if you don't feel your family is complete you are allowed to feel as you do xx
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@Bongley I think that's an excellent idea it will give you between now and then to digest the situation and clear ur head and someone who is not involved in the process to talk too, I can't even imagine how you must be feeling and the emotions you are experiencing, just take ur time to absorb everything and enjoy the xmass and new year period with ur family and then next year you can reassess how you are feeling and you always have that option too keep trying it's not a decision you have to make this second but that choice is still there it's just a matter of seeing how you feel and if you decide not to continue in the new year than at least you no you did your best and that's all you can do…massive hugs xxx
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