I have a 21 month old with 2nd one due early next year. Last few weeks have been a challenge - my toddler is acting out, he is normally quite placid and has always been easy to calm and make happy again. Now, I feel like I have someone else's kid - I don't understand what he wants anymore. He seems to just want to break/kick/push/tip/poke everything he comes into contact with and will not care if I say no (a hundred times) and if I have to get up and take it away and pull him away from item - he chucks a tantrum. Everything is 'mine' and 'no' at the moment and its driving me insane. No more cuddling and cutie, he just walks around giving me this look that says 'im going to be a monster today'. We're trying to get him to take naps in his big boy bed and I keep thinking, maybe its better when this 'phase' has stopped - but what if it doesn't. Don't know how to deal with these changes, it make me so angry and I don't like that feeling . I know its normal - but how do you deal with it?