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    Default Anxiety/Pain/Fatigue/Housework - how do SAHMs cope?? SHARE your experiences!

    I can't cope with the housework on the daily due to fatigue and pain, and don't know how to get around this? What have you done to cope with an exhausting toddler, to get floors and bathrooms and vacuuming etc. Done? This on top of making dinner for when DH gets home.. feeling a little piled on! Not cut out for this SAHM business.
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    hi herpsrule. I would try to just focus on the toddler. I would use a slow cooker, or do as many simple one pot dinners, so that you need to spend the minimum time in the kitchen. I would tackle the housework on a needs basis. If you cant function with messy floors, limit the number of toys that are allowed out, and keep all eating to one area. if you have to have a sparkling bathroom, keep the cleaning cloths handy, and give everything a wipe over each time you are there. I would do whatever I could when the children were asleep, and I promise you I never had the whole house clean in one day. I would do a little bit here and there, do a little vacuuming in the lounge room, or tidy the kitchen, but never ever did I have the whole house clean on one day. not until I had a housecleaner when the children were all in high school. marie.

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    Thanks! Funny thing is, as I have said all of that, I got a call today for a job interview! So fingers crossed I get it, it will give me time out, and I think will be the great motivator for the housework stuff! Eep

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    I have a 5 year old, 3andhalf yr old, nearly 2 year old, 7 month old n I'm preg. all at home with me no school or care and I get the hmmm look from inlaws and husbands family when they do a surprise drop by during the day like my house should be sparkling! I don't stop and I get my house looking sparking only for it to be undone in 5 min and when I mention that to DH family they say really why are your kids like that - and it rubs off on DH and drops comments about the house arrrrg @&);4"?

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    I've just had my third baby so I've had to adjust how I get through everything. Before baby was born I'd do everything on a Wednesday but that's too hard now. So what I do is a general tidy up (sorting piles of stuff, cleaning off kitchen benches etc), dusting and clean both bathrooms on a Tuesday. I get my 2 year old to help. Give him some gloves and wet wipes and let him go for it! Then on a Wednesday I wash all the linen and towels, clean the kitchen, vacuum and mop all floors. I'm finding this more manageable. I then fit my clothes washing in around all this.

    I think you need to have a plan in your head about how to go about things or else it becomes overwhelming. My eldest son is also good with helping -he does the dishwasher every day, strips his bed and cleans the toy room.

    I hope you can find a way that works for you. It's hard being at home!!!


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    I have 3 kids and help hubby with our farm. One of my biggest tricks is to batch cook because then DH can just reheat something at tea time. I also try and do a lot in the mornings when the kids are happiest and do a tidy up after they are in bed. I will say I'm lucky and get lots of sleep which helps.

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    I've got a toddler, pregnant and working every day... that's been nightmarish - personally I think being at home is marginally better at least u have SOME opportunity to try to get to housework during the day!!

    I bought a sling and started wearing my toddler when he was not letting me make his dinner (a sandwich half the time) tricky with a baby bump. Or chucking him in the high chair with a biscuit so I could sweep. Or in the cot/playpen when I was desperate. Or join him on the floor to play with toys then run off and do stuff while he's distracted. Having showers together now is great - saves me half an hour later. And finally it was near impossible until hubby finally relented and started helping out A LOT.


 

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