We decided before having children that 2 would be our maximum. One each.
After having DS1 I was 100% sure I would stop at 2. Now DS2 is here (he's 3 weeks old) I definitely feel that our family is complete and I'm really happy to be finished!
I feel that two is all I could handle as a SAHM, and financially two children is do-able for us.
After having the third, which is confusing.
You see my third- dd, is like my second child, because my first and second are twins.
So knowing that, you could see how although she is number 3, she is a lot like a number 2 for most. The pregnancy was far easier and enjoyable, much more so than with the boys, but the ms made me think "never again".
And then of course we have a near 5 year gap. We were beginning to see the light, to gain some independence from small children, to really pull in a dual income and to be able to go away together for weekends knowing the boys were happy without us. Having a baby again just feels like we are right back at square one with no independence or personal lives. It's like falling to the bottom of a tall mountain even though you were near the peak and then having to start climbing all over again.
And lastly, I don't yearn any more. I get nostalgic and teary and sometimes miss being pregnant or having a wee baby, but that's it. I like my kids more and more the older they get
When, after dd we found out dh has MDD and one of the triggers of a depressive episode is a baby crying...
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I am 100% done with 2 kids. I already feel stretched. I like my me time and I miss my sleep and working.
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I've always wanted two the first was conceived using IVF I have one frozen egg left but guess I won't be having anymore as DH decided to give up on our marriage
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