Has anyone mentioned doing a number 2's during pushing stage??
That when your baby is born and placed on your chest you may go into shock and just stare like a stunned mullet O_0
(I had a whole speal about what my 1st words would be the moment I lay eyes on him but I just stared!)
And yep... The swelling afterwards! Thought it would never go away!
For me two things stand out. First was the saggy, empty tummy after birth. It was the strangest feeling after being so huge for months, to the have this empty feeling, and it felt like my stomach and insides were going to fall out.
The other was how hard breast feeding would be. I put all my energy into reading up about labour and birth that I didn't give breast feeding much thought as I thought it would be easy. I was so wrong! The pain, the poor latch, the lack of milk and the countless tears. I also wish I had sought help from a lactation consultant. This time I'll have contact numbers on hand for breast feeding support.
ok - I dont want any pregnant first timers to read this and freak out ...
so not ALL births go so badly.
My C/S was fine ...
breastfeeding HURT and wasnt established ...
- that you can feel like such a failure for not being able to breastfeed.
- that your stomach 'jiggles' After being so firm and full of baby, that afterwards you have all this body fat that jiggles while you walk
For me, three things stand out:
1) How towards transition, I was involuntarily pushing at the end of every contraction. It was such a strong force that took over my body it scared me. Then my midwife assured me it was fine and I relaxed into it, but still, wow what a force!
2) Once that placenta finally plops out, ahhh what sheer relief! I felt as light as a feather afterwards.
3) It's been mentioned a fair bit, but after birth pains with baby #2. I honestly wanted the gas back for that first night in hospital. I couldn't believe they wouldn't give it to me! Panadine Forte was completely ineffective. Really really dreading them with baby #3
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