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    Quote Originally Posted by AngelicHobgoblin View Post
    It's all said through email, so all his tantrums he has thrown are all in writing.
    As for exposing the kids to it, I totally agree. I just dint know if that is a good enough reason not to send them. If I knew 100% I had the right to refuse due to this I would of done it years ago. It's not what I want my kids thinking is ok to do when angry. I guess you are right though with not being locked in. I will just have to wait and see. I'm not forcing him to have them but I think once he sees child support go up because he isn't having them, he will change his mind
    A lot of people will disagree with me on this one, but if you are concerned that he will take them simply because of this reason then just don't report the change of care arrangements, if you can live without the child support income of course. Its another option at least.

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    Aaand as expected he has changed his mind. He can now pick them up. I don't understand if he can so easily rearrange things after the fact, he can't do that to start with.

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    he is just playing mind games and your children suffer. you do have a right to refuse access and he is then allowed to ask to initiate mediation. he may not even bother and he may just leave and not see the kids. not all kids are better off with both parents that's for sure.

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    I think that's what happened when we went to mediation the first time. Because he wouldn't keep the same deal we made and kept picking and changing whenever he wanted I said no more. Told him if he wanted to see the kids he needs to stick to what we planned and keep it stable and in routine so we went to mediation. I honestly think it's his dp that is making him see the kids because she is the one who does all the pick ups anyway.

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    You won't go 'straight to court'. I finished mediation with my ex when I was 2 weeks away from birthing my dd. My dd was 2 in April this year and tomorrow I am going to my first day off a LAT (less adversarial trial). We will only get to a hearing in another 4-7 months. It's not the quickest route and I have spent $82,000 and expect to spend another $55,000 by the time this is finished. I am also the respondent not the applicant. Go to mediation and get the arrangements stamped by the court. If you don't attend mediation you could look bad in the eyes of the court and they could award him shared custody or some other amount of time which would not be favourable to your kids.

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    I clicked on this because I thought it read Saying no to medication... oops, time to visit the optometrist I think

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    Quote Originally Posted by BbBbBh View Post
    You won't go 'straight to court'. I finished mediation with my ex when I was 2 weeks away from birthing my dd. My dd was 2 in April this year and tomorrow I am going to my first day off a LAT (less adversarial trial). We will only get to a hearing in another 4-7 months. It's not the quickest route and I have spent $82,000 and expect to spend another $55,000 by the time this is finished. I am also the respondent not the applicant. Go to mediation and get the arrangements stamped by the court. If you don't attend mediation you could look bad in the eyes of the court and they could award him shared custody or some other amount of time which would not be favourable to your kids.
    I agree with this completely. Our process took about 18 months and we came to orders by consent. I have close friends who are at the 2 year mark and still going. They have now been sent back to mediation again after various independent reports and the children being subjected to interviews and psych reviews. Even at the 2 year mark the end is not in sight.

    Find a lawyer, go to mediation, get lawyer to put agreement reached at mediation into consent orders. If he won't sign and come to orders by consent go from there.

    Have you spoken to a lawyer at all?

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    I just wanted to update. I went to court today as previously mentioned. We have a mention in late October and will then probably have a final hearing in March. That will be 3 years! 3 freakin years!

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    I saw a lawyer who typed up the orders but after signed and sent off (only to get sent back again due to wrong payment) ex said the lawyer world it wrong or I made the lawyer change the details in which the mediator wrote it up. He just didn't agree to what he agreed on in the first place.

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    Worded it wrong*


 

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