Aaand as expected he has changed his mind. He can now pick them up. I don't understand if he can so easily rearrange things after the fact, he can't do that to start with.
he is just playing mind games and your children suffer. you do have a right to refuse access and he is then allowed to ask to initiate mediation. he may not even bother and he may just leave and not see the kids. not all kids are better off with both parents that's for sure.
I think that's what happened when we went to mediation the first time. Because he wouldn't keep the same deal we made and kept picking and changing whenever he wanted I said no more. Told him if he wanted to see the kids he needs to stick to what we planned and keep it stable and in routine so we went to mediation. I honestly think it's his dp that is making him see the kids because she is the one who does all the pick ups anyway.
You won't go 'straight to court'. I finished mediation with my ex when I was 2 weeks away from birthing my dd. My dd was 2 in April this year and tomorrow I am going to my first day off a LAT (less adversarial trial). We will only get to a hearing in another 4-7 months. It's not the quickest route and I have spent $82,000 and expect to spend another $55,000 by the time this is finished. I am also the respondent not the applicant. Go to mediation and get the arrangements stamped by the court. If you don't attend mediation you could look bad in the eyes of the court and they could award him shared custody or some other amount of time which would not be favourable to your kids.
I clicked on this because I thought it read Saying no to medication... oops, time to visit the optometrist I think
Find a lawyer, go to mediation, get lawyer to put agreement reached at mediation into consent orders. If he won't sign and come to orders by consent go from there.
Have you spoken to a lawyer at all?
I just wanted to update. I went to court today as previously mentioned. We have a mention in late October and will then probably have a final hearing in March. That will be 3 years! 3 freakin years!
I saw a lawyer who typed up the orders but after signed and sent off (only to get sent back again due to wrong payment) ex said the lawyer world it wrong or I made the lawyer change the details in which the mediator wrote it up. He just didn't agree to what he agreed on in the first place.
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