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    Default Should Commercial Surrogacy be legal? Should overseas surrogacy be illegal? WDYT

    Currently all commerical surrogacy in Australia is illegal, only altruistic surrogacy is permitted. The intended parents are allowed to pay expenses - but that is it.

    As far as overseas commercial surrogacy - the laws for each state are different. some states allow it and others do not.

    Whatever - it is clear the current mumbo-jumbo mix is not really appropriate.


    So - what do YOU think we should do? Should we allow commercial surrogacy?

    Should intended parents be allowed to pay the person who is giving them the ultimate gift?

    Or does this only encourage the activity of people in extreme hardship 'selling' their womb ... possibly under duress from family or others.

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    Yes, I think commercial surrogacy in Australia should be allowed.

    I think the power balance is much more equal for someone in Australia who may not have much money and is turning to surrogacy to make some money vs someone in poverty in a developing country. There is just way too much risk of exploitation in developing countries.

    I would prefer to see commercial surrogacy in overseas countries illegal for Australians, and commercial surrogacy legal in Australia.
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    Quote Originally Posted by NoteToSelf View Post
    Yes, I think commercial surrogacy in Australia should be allowed.

    I think the power balance is much more equal for someone in Australia who may not have much money and is turning to surrogacy to make some money vs someone in poverty in a developing country. There is just way too much risk of exploitation in developing countries.

    I would prefer to see commercial surrogacy in overseas countries illegal for Australian, and commercial surrogacy legal in Australia.
    This. As an altruistic surrogate we are the only person who is not paid in this process..yet we are the ones risking everything. I never use to believe that commercial surrogacy was appropriate until someone pointed these things out to me. And yes, after suffering hyperemesis and seeing other surrogates go through high risk pregnancies I do believe some compensation is warranted. Hell even a straight forward normal pregnancy isn't a walk in the park when you're doing it for someone else!
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    I think it's hard & unless you've found yourself in this position of needing a surrogate it is hard to answer.

    Infertility is such a hard road as it is without making it more difficult for couples to get their take home baby.

    I don't think couples should have to pay more than medical expenses. I have had friends that have looked into surrogacy & with legal fee's etc it is insanely expensive. And not to mention emotionally draining.

    I do think however that the person being the surrogate needs to be adequately looked after & not taken advantage of.

    I know there are a lot of lovely ladies on here that need the option of surrogacy & I'd hate to think this recent event in the media has made it even more harder & mentally tougher than what it already was.

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    I agree Rocky we need medicare funding for surrogacy! I disagree that they shouldnt have to pay more than medical costs, all costs associated with the pregnancy need to be covered (as they are) loss of wages, travel costs, maternity clothing...pretty much anything you would pay for if you were expecting yourself.
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    I think it is a nice idea to think of altruistic surrogacy as being able to meet the needs of all couples who need it. But unfortunately I just don't think it is realistic, I personally would not be an altruistic surrogate (except for a family member or close friend), but I would consider it if say I could pay for a chunk of my kids education or something.

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    It is hard.

    Its something I might have considered if DH was willing (I cannot have another baby) ...

    But I would desperately have liked the opportunity to do something nice (in monetary terms) for the person who would be making such an enormous difference to my life.

    By the same token - some people being able to do that might then result in all surrogates expecting that kind of payment, and make it unreachable for people who are not able to offer that

    its hard

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    Quote Originally Posted by BH-KatiesMum View Post
    It is hard.

    Its something I might have considered if DH was willing (I cannot have another baby) ...

    But I would desperately have liked the opportunity to do something nice (in monetary terms) for the person who would be making such an enormous difference to my life.

    By the same token - some people being able to do that might then result in all surrogates expecting that kind of payment, and make it unreachable for people who are not able to offer that

    its hard
    I agree and thats initially why I didnt like the idea of commercial surrogacy. What annoys me the most is that simple things like if my intended parents were to send me a gift basket of foods I am craving, to buy me a sentimental gift (not necessarily $) it could put our parenting order in jeopardy. IMO that is ridiculous.

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    Oh - thats pretty crap HOF.

    I thought they were allowed to buy you small token gifts (like a hamper of food or a piece of jewellery to remember ...



 

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