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    Default Random sads.

    My little boy is 9 weeks now. He's a delightful baby. Very easy to care for. However, every now and then I get the sads randomly for a good part of the day. Not sure if this is still to be expected. It's not consistent and comes out of nowhere.
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    it is hard.

    Your emotions are controleld by hormones ... and it is hormones that control your body's physical changes in pregnancy. Hormones that tell your body to grow a placenta, to make more blood, to change throughout pregnancy, to go into labour, to make milk .... physical changes.

    After having a baby, it can take a long time for those hormones to get back into balance ... especially if you are breastfeeding.

    So some emotional imbalance is certainly to be expected.

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    Being sad for a good part of the day isnt really. Random sads is expected - but if its for long periods, then I would perhaps see your GP or your maternal health nurse and be assessed for PND.



    How is it going with bubs? Are you getting some sleep? Do you have family support? How is feeding going?


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    It doesn't feel that bad... I'm still getting things done. But I have been sad most days since posting here and it has affected my marriage. I got very frustrated with my husband when I was trying to cook dinner as well as settle the baby and acted out. Also I'm having trouble planning things. Maybe I'm overtired.

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    How is it going with bubs? Are you getting some sleep? Do you have family support? How is feeding going?
    I get sleep, but I don't remember when I had any more than three and a half at a stretch. Family support is good, I could use more help around the house with my husband, but don't we all? lol. Feeding is going much better now. He's almost exclusively bottle fed now with some expressed breast milk, but I'm weaning from domperidone and finding my supply is dropping rapidly.

    I think I will at least call someone to get assessed. It's hard to be patient with the baby when I feel down, and I'm sure he can pick up on what I feel and it makes him harder to settle. If I'm just overtired, that could be fixed easily I think.

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    lack of sleep certainly adds to the hormonal imbalance ... so that is something you need to address.

    Perhaps have a talk with your DH and ask if he can do one feed so that you get a decent unbroken sleep.

    So maybe he you have an early dinner, feed bubs and go to bed (say about 7ish)... then he does the next feed at 10.30 or so and goes to bed ... so that you get from 7.30 - 1.30 or so. Or ask your family to come over and do a feed during the day.

    It is hard being patient with bubs - especially when you are feeling so off balance

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    I still find pleasure in things that I liked to do, like walking, singing or playing my guitar or talking with friends (just am a little bit selective) and I find I still want to go out and do things. This is what makes me think I might just be overtired.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BH-KatiesMum View Post
    lack of sleep certainly adds to the hormonal imbalance ... so that is something you need to address.

    Perhaps have a talk with your DH and ask if he can do one feed so that you get a decent unbroken sleep.

    So maybe he you have an early dinner, feed bubs and go to bed (say about 7ish)... then he does the next feed at 10.30 or so and goes to bed ... so that you get from 7.30 - 1.30 or so. Or ask your family to come over and do a feed during the day.

    It is hard being patient with bubs - especially when you are feeling so off balance
    I tried this once but I still wake up when bubby wakes up as he sleeps in our room. Might set up the spare bed.

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    So I made an appointment with the child health nurse to get assessed... and they didn't show up! I did their multiple choice screening test and I got more points towards PND than I thought I would. There were lots of other behaviours I didn't really associate with PND. eg being anxious/worried or scared for no real reason. Like, I would randomly get scared and feel unsafe through the day and really wish for my husband to be home. Other times, instead of sleeping, I would get absolutely fixated on something and worry over it (Eg money, the pram, what if I was doing something wrong with bubba..etc) for about two hours or so. Those are things that are on their screening sheet.

    Well, I'm so mad about them missing the appointment. It was a really big inconvenience to my family for me to get there. I was there waiting for half an hour. I ended up leaving because I just didn't have any more time and called later to complain, but had to leave a message on their answering machine. Haven't heard from them yet.

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    oh hun that is crap. I am so annoyed for you.

    Perhaps your GP?

    It does sound like you could use some help with this, so please dont be put off by the health nurse not showing up.



 

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