So my MIL moved in with us after she left her partner a week after my son was born, we knew it was going to happen but it was just a case of when.. Since then she has been doing everything she can to drive me insane my partner and I will cook dinner for ourselves and she will come home and clean up after us, I'll get up early morning with our son, she'll get up for work and she'll make so much noise in the kitchen to try and wake him up so she can play with him before work. These issues don't bother me so much, I guess she's just loves him so much and wants to see him all the time..
Lately it's been escalating..
She doesn't listen to me and will only listen to me if I go through DH and HE tells her what to do..
The other day she fed my 5 month old son TOAST for the first time without DH's or my permission, without even mentioning it to us then she LEFT THE HOUSE without even telling us what she had done.. it was only the fact I had seen her doing it that I knew what she was doing.. I told DH about it and he was furious, what kind of psycho feeds a 5 month old baby TOAST and then LEAVES?! What if my son had an allergic reaction to it?! Then what?! We would have had NO idea what was going on if I hadn't seen her.. Luckily my son was fine but when DH told her not to do it again she argued with him about it, telling him that SIL's son eats toast (8 month old..)
She offered to look after him one morning so we could sleep in and after questioning her a bit we found out that she intended to put our son in her bed and fall asleep with him.. when we said that wasn't safe she assured us it was because he would be surrounded by PILLOWS.. again when we said no, she argued about it telling us that she has raised 3 kids and had 3 grandkids in her bed it was fine..
She continually tells us that when he is 6 months old she is taking him in her car as she has a carseat and he can go shopping with her, again.. She drives like an absolute maniac, speeds, breaks suddenly, she's even driven someone off the road before due to her carelessness.. we've told her no but she is certain that will we let her.. either that or it seems she'll do it without our permission.. I already told DH if she does I'll call the cops.
She took him for a walk to the local park the other day and put him in the swing for small children and then let go of him to take pictures.. She put him on the play equipment in various poses to take pictures so she could send them to everyone including her boyfriend.. WTF.. What kind of psycho puts a BABY on play equipment and then LETS THEM GO..
She is constantly telling us that we're doing the wrong thing because we aren't doing things the same way SIL does them.. She is constantly pestering us to do the same thing SIL is doing with her 8 month old son..
She CONSTANTLY discusses our finances and me in hushed tones with DH and then stops when I walk in the room, I've taken to hiding in the baby's room to be able to listen into the conversation..
She whinges about us never letting her look after him and then when we do, she dumps him on the lounge room floor in front of the TV with a blanket and a few toys and walks off.
She has called herself mum to my son many times and doesn't even bother to correct herself anymore..
and for the worst thing in my opinion..
We picked a good friend of both DH's and mine for our son's Godparent, we only wanted one and we took the route of wanting him to be our son's legal guardian if anything were to happen to us. My family lives in another state and we know this friend would be willing to travel between the two families to ensure that our son got to see all his family, where as either family would probably just keep him in their home states and forget about the other family. MIL found out about it and flipped out, she made wild accusations about this friend, told us he was a child molester (which isn't true.) She told us that his sister's were heartbroken and unwilling to speak to us anymore because we hurt them so much with our decision.. She told us that SHE deserved to be his godmother and his legal guardian because she's spent the most money on him.. So DH finally told her we didn't care anymore and we would just let the families fight it out if anything happened to us.. (knowing full well he would probably end up with my family.. )
So she went around telling everyone that SHE is his godmother and that if anything happens to us that SHE will be getting our son.. I was furious about it and now DH and I are going to seek legal advice to ensure she doesn't end up with him.. but the point is that she's thinking now that because she has named herself as his godmother she thinks she has more of a right to him that anyone else.. and she has a right to take him where ever and do whatever with him..
She makes vague comments about how she will be living with us until he is at school at least.. I don't think I'll last til the end of the year let alone til he goes to school.. I've asked my parents and they've suggested I move back in with him for a little while.. I'm honestly considering taking my son and doing it, I love my DH but I can't deal with him mum much longer..
Am I over reacting or is this stuff as bad as it sounds??