Op you do have to tell some men. He probably doesn't give ds morning tea because he himself doesn't eat morning tea. Going to Bunnings is probably his idea of spending time with ds so yes it may not be what you would do but it is his idea of spending time with his son. Some men do need telling whilst others just naturally pick up the slack. Others will do more than their fair share too. It's like those people who say 'i'm babysitting'. Ummm, no you're not you're parenting. give him options until he gets his own flow going. Unfortunately your man needs some training!