I have a 3.5 year old and a 1.5 year old. I have noted some "things" with my 3.5 year old
1. 3.5 yo wakes in the night and comes into our bed. Has done since sibling was born. Have tried almost everything. Though admittedly give up probably too soon if it doesn't show great improvements quickly. He had always been a great sleeper prior
2. Dinner time is a disaster zone. He has gone from a great independant eater, to stalling, mucking around and taking forever. Usually frustrating both parents. He will eat fine if we "spoon feed" him, but almost refuses otherwise
3. Is now asking to be carried when we are out, when his sibling is in the pram.
4. At times talks like a baby, one word sentences, silly voices.
=? Sibling jealousy
all of the above comes and goes, and on reflection, is probably more evident when his sibling is around.
i know so many ways we went wrong, and let behaviours slip (eg coming into our bed). And I also know that there was a lot of turmoil when his sibling was born, and she is still quite a handful.
but how do I fix things- he seems to have regressed, and is resentful towards her. Yesterday he told me " he only loves his sister and me sometimes" but daddy and grandma always" broke my heart
we usually have have activities when she is sleeping
i try for mum/son time, but he at times declines
they do a lot together (only 1 day a week apart with childcare)
-no access to grandparents etc.
i am at a sad miserable loss- anyone got any suggestions on how I can repair things