I know this is going to turn into a venting post so sorry in advance. DH and I have been together for almost 11 years and have a 2 and 3 year old. Things between us are not going well and I'm at the point where I don't know if we have a future together. I just feel so unappreciated and that things would just be easier if I could go ahead and do them without having his input. Don't get me wrong, DH is great with the kids and has never been abusive. It just feels like we have grown apart and are now just getting on each others nerves. We have no sex life and just have the bare minimum in affection (kiss hello and goodbye). Dh shows no interest in anything I do or say. He will flat out ignore me or tune out. He blames me for his behaviour as over the years I have battled depression and would often cry a lot or complain or start arguments so apparently he tunes out most of what I say as a way that he can survive. I feel he is holding onto how I have been in the past without giving me a chance to change or prove myself. If we did separate I would probably have to move in with my parents 5hrs drive away from DH and I know that being so far from the kids would break his heart. I would have no job (I am studying at uni) so don't know how I would cope financially. I'm just so upset that I'm even thinking about all this as I thought we'd be together forever and thinking about splitting up is such a serious decision. I don't know what's best for the kids. They love their dad so much but I just don't know how much longer I can try and be happy in a relationship that I fear is ending. Any advice or thoughts would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.