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    He isn't a good husband Lois. Good husbands don't tallk to their wives like like that. They don't think about their wives in that manner. I hope he would consider attending marriage counselling. You do not deserve to be with a person who thinks nothing of you. These could be the best years of your life. Don't waste them with someone who doesn't give a fig about you.
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    Please consider counselling, just for yourself. You deserve to be happy and you don't sound happy. Words hurt.

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    I couldn't be in a relationship with someone like him. No one should be spoken to that way.

    Why did he marry you if he didn't find you attractive or weren't what he was after in a wife...?

    I think you should do yourself a favour and leave this man.

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    Looking at this incident in isolation I don't think what he said is that bad. It's no worse that what you said (and to be honest you were a key player in turning the conversation down the I-am-the-best-in-the-world path).

    Is it possible you're extra sensitive to his words at the moment?

    I know there could be a heap of background that I'm not aware of, and apologies if that changes things.

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    Threes a world of difference between "I am the best in the world" and "you are the worst in the world".

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    Quote Originally Posted by Gothel View Post
    Threes a world of difference between "I am the best in the world" and "you are the worst in the world".
    Imo both were said with the same level of cheekiness. If the OP didn't like what the hubby said then it's a conversation that the OP could have (should have?) cut short before it got to where it did. Not saying this to be hurtful just thinking that if the OP knows she has the power to control the way a conversation is going, and not prolong an uncomfortable conversation, then this might be helpful.

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    can you honestly think of a time when you have hurt his feelings?? If you have, have you apologised?? I seriously think he needs to change his attitude, and you need to stand up against him and all his hurtful ways. There can always be light hearted cheeky conversation, between friends, but when someone has been hurt by the words, then there needs to be some sort of reconciliation. once you told him that your feelings were hurt, he should have just said 'im sorry'. there was really no need for him to yell and curse at you. you deserve to be treated much better. he is not even treating you as a mate. Marie.

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    “The most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother”

    I feel that quote is quite fitting in this thread. OP, i feel the way he is treating you is appalling. How is this marriage supposed to work if he thinks so poorly of you? I can't even begin to imagine what that does to your self esteem. Life is too short to be living like that imo.

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    Quote Originally Posted by loislane2010 View Post
    Thanks for all your replys.
    He got home last night and i said 'you hurt my feeling at dinner'. Just simply said it, no anger, tears anything and he said
    'You hurt MY feelings ALL the f**king time'. And walked away and went to bed.

    I cried myself to sleep and this morning he barely said goodbye to me when he left for work.

    I just feel so hurt and sad.

    He is a great dad and usually a great husband but when you know your not what he expected of a wife or that hes not attracted to you physically, its an issue right!!!
    It's time to have a serious think about the situation you're in. If you feel you're strong enough to leave then I would tell him that he needs to go to counselling with your or you will leave.

    Imagine your life without him, plan how you would pay bills, etc. Think about the reality of what that life would be like. You are stronger than you think about you absolutely do not deserve to be treated this way. What he's doing is emotional abuse, making you feel like you're worthless when you're not.

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    I just want to add, I'm not saying you should just up and leave him but prepare yourself for it and stand up for yourself and tell him that the way he is treating you is not okay. If he truly thinks you hurt his feeling then ask how you do that so you can work through it.


 

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