Okay I am to angry right now to think straight. Please tell me if this is reasonable or I am over the top in being angry (Let face it when it comes to my kids I am a mumma bear)
Ds1 is in year 9. He has adhd and some other learning disabilities including being very slow at reading and writing with a spelling ability of a gr 4 child. Extreme self esteem issue due to his learning disabilities, his physical appearance really bad acne the scaring kind that he can't use meds for because of other skin problems and The robbery that he was threatened to be bashed to death at Christmas time last year that he feels he failed to protect me and his siblings from. He is also very tall for his age so get teased for that too.
He does guitar lessons privately and loves music.
He does music as on of his electives. He hates it. He first assignment this year was to hard for my ex professional musician husband to understand. Anyhow he hates the subject as he just doesn't get a lot of it. She has made learn a new instrument (the trumpet). Last week he was supposed to preform piece in front of a audience of serval hundred people as a exam (his class was the only ones doing a exam the rest were there voluntary). This was last Wed 7:30 pm. He told me about 2 weeks before hand that he to attend. No notes or emails from the teacher. The school is a 30 minute drive away.
Anyhow my husband father died just week before the performance. He is still grieving. I was away with my sick dd on the other side of the country. My husband had 4 children at home to look after for the week I was away. He didn't fell up to taking Ds1 to the performance as it had been less than a week from his father's death and sitting in a room with hundreds of people listening to kids preform. It was also after the other three kids bed times and he was alone. He just couldn't cope.
Ds1 told the teacher that he most probably wouldn't be there as his dad wasnt doing to we'll. She told him he would fail music and was letting everyone else down. He said that was fine he would take the fail.
I rang the school and informed them that is why he wasn't there and was told that it was perfectly understandable and that was fine they would pass it onto the teacher as she wasn't there for me to talk too.
On to today lesson, he was made to stand up in front of the class with 2 other students that didn't make it and was lectured about missing it. He told he had 15 weeks (a lie. Because school only scheduled the night 10 weeks ago) to find transport to and from the event. No notes or emails were sent to us the parents about him needing to attend.
All of which is irrelevant as we could schedule his grandfather dying and his sister being very sick on the other side of the country.
He was told he needs to find a time to preform in front of audience in his own time that suits her to do the exam. (I wouldn't have big issue with this if she had pulled him aside and told he had to re sit the exam.)
I am angry that she shamed him as well as her general attitude.
She has also decided that he and his class needs to be at school and 1 hour and 15 mins early every Friday for a extra class. Still no note from her about this.
The school has a rule that kids can't be there that early. So what are my other 3 kids including a prep child suppose to do. It's a hour round trip so it's not like we can drop him off early and take the others later.
So is this reasonable and I am just that problem parent ?
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