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    Default 7 year old son is extremely difficult

    Hello, my sons mother and I have been div for more than 2 years and I see my son every other weekend. So when I see him I always try and plan something fun for us to do. Unfortunately his idea of fun is watching tv or playing video games. Most recently my gf and I took him to he beach, instead of playing and having fun he sat with his head down staring at he sand for most of the afternoon.

    Yesterday I took him to a baseball game and he was down right miserable. Again, he spent most of the time looking down acting as though I'd tortured him the whole time.

    As you can imagine, this can be very frustrating and it's getting to the point I can't take him anywhere because he acts this way. It can also be embarrassing to in public places.

    Please help

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    Are you asking him what he would like to do or are you planning activities yourself for him? My DS is 7 as well, and he knows his own mind. He has likes and dislikes and his own interests.

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    Quote Originally Posted by delirium View Post
    Are you asking him what he would like to do or are you planning activities yourself for him? My DS is 7 as well, and he knows his own mind. He has likes and dislikes and his own interests.
    On one hand i agree on the other I think it's vitally important he learns to have fun away from the screen.
    My 12 yr old Bil has been infront of screens since 2. He now won't do anything else and is a down right pita if you do. We took him out for breakfast the other week and he just winged the whole time about when can he get home to play his games

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    Some kids hate outdoor stuff like that. Why not make his time with you fun doing stuff he wants to do. Research his like and see what you can do together. Spend time in his world. You will find that he will open up more to you if you sitting on the floor playing his favorite game, talking and laughing than you ever will at the beach if he hates that. Don't be afraid to make a fool of yourself. Let him teach you something.

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    My kids are not the outdoorsy types. They love museums, movies, gaming arcades, swimming pool, planetarium ect.

    Why not try an aviation museum, science museum or military museum?

    My kids would probably cry if they just went to a beach or fishing and they would hate a sporting match. Different people like differant things.

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    Quote Originally Posted by maternidade View Post
    On one hand i agree on the other I think it's vitally important he learns to have fun away from the screen.
    My 12 yr old Bil has been infront of screens since 2. He now won't do anything else and is a down right pita if you do. We took him out for breakfast the other week and he just winged the whole time about when can he get home to play his games
    I'm not saying he should just be allowed to watch tv or games all weekend. But maybe giving his son the option to choose an activity may help with his interest levels.

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    Whilst it may seem like he is ungrateful and difficult, he is probably simply bored by the outings you have chosen to take him on. Some kids just aren't outdoorsy types.

    He might prefer outings like going out for ice cream followed by a gaming arcade or going to the movies?

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    I agree with pp. Just because you like that kinda stuff doesn't mean your son does. Ask him what he wants to do or choose something more suited to his likes.

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    Your son seems to be old enough to know what he likes and what he doesn't. Just ask him what he wants to do.

    Maybe he has a hobby you can do together? If he isn't the sporty, outdoorsy type maybe he'd like to craft a model boat for you to sail together or something.

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    I agree with pp's, my almost 7 year old wouldn't be impressed if I made him sit through a basketball game or if we went to the beach. They just aren't things he enjoys. If we went and saw a movie he was interested in, went to timezone or similar, to a playground, go karting, for a hike through national park, etc. He would thoroughly enjoy it.
    I think trying to find some middle ground is the way to go.

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