Hi. I'm sure I'm not in a unique situation although for my age perhaps one of the rarer cases.
I'm single and pg with twins. FOB wants nothing to do with it, asked me to terminate and reckons this is going to ruin his life. Can't figure out how seeing as I've asked him for nothing and he certainly hasn't offered anything, let alone the fact it's not him going through the pg. He gets to go on as though nothing is happening.
Anyway, I am happy about the babies and can't wait to see them on the monitor again in a few weeks time. My parents are happy about it too and my sister is also pg with their third - 10 days ahead of me - so I'm not short of someone to talk to and share this with.
However, none of them have been in this situation so I feel a bit alone in that respect. I only recently at the beginning of the year bought my own house after separating from my husband early last year (yes my track record with men is awesome), my car loan will be paid off by early next year or earlier if I can manage it, my HECS should be paid off now that I've done my tax return, and I have a small credit card debt which I'm hoping my tax return will help pay off. I will get the govt PPL and paid maternity leave for 14 wks from my employer. In spite of this I'm still not sure I'm going to survive, especially with reduced pay from the PPL and 20 weeks with no pay.
How do people cope both financially and emotionally as single parents and more specifically as a single parent of twins in the first year?