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    Quote Originally Posted by Chillies View Post
    I'm so sorry to read munchkin! DH and I had a discussion about this a few weeks ago. I'm all for him socialising but not if he thinks it's okay to drink all night then not do jobs the next day and avoid doing them because of work. Sucks :/
    We also had the discussion but it hasn't worked here lol

    In get lonely still but I don't mind being at home with my ds most of the time. I'm enjoying time with him that he is missing out on

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    @Chillies, I think what @meredithgrey says about meeting women in antenatal classes is absolutely right. I met some wonderful women in a perinatal anxiety course I did a few months ago. We've been keeping in touch and arranging catch ups. I know it sounds like it might be all gloom and doom given how we met but I've actually found it empowering. This group of women really understand what each other has been going through and can relate to it from our own experiences. In many ways they can understand me much better than some of my friends that I've known for years. That's been a great help for me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Chillies View Post
    That is a good idea but my problem is, the ppl I want to socialize with are drinkers and would not come over. It would be more of a headache. I do go to friends places but it ends up being about the baby and them saying how they're glad it's not then pregnant! Sigh (maybe I need new friends lol).
    Eep! It doesn't sound like they're the most supportive bunch! Wowsers I'd give my friends a bit of an education if they told me how glad they are they aren't pregnant especially as this baby is very, very, very much wanted and worked for.

    The funny thing is... When I was pregnant I only wanted to socialise with DP. We'd hang out with other people and I'd always just wish it was me and DP. Movies with DP were my favourite thing when I was pregnant.

    There isn't really much of a solution if your mates are heavy drinkers and you don't want to do that with them but it's all they want to do.

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    I dont have tips either, but am feeling really lonely as well. We just moved interstate from Canberra to Cairns and I'm almost 37 weeks. We don't know a soul here, all our family and friends are scattered around and a lot of then literally just moved to Canberra as we left.
    I'm fining it really isolating and pretty much impossible to be meeting people at this stage - the hospital classes have all already happened, I'm too tired and uncomfortable to join a yoga class or an aquarobics class etc. I miss working and having that interaction with people, and identity of myself. All of this plus finding my first stretch marks today has made me a bit of an emotional mess!
    Actually I do have tips - do the yoga or exercise classes! I'd just started these in Canberra and started to meet a couple of lovely mums

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    I think the classes is a great idea! My ante natal classes haven't started as yet (still have 10 weeks to go!) but I did have a look on the gym website and found a couple of things I like-water aerobics and maybe just swimming in general

    Actually reading my post back I am thinking why would I bother with these people? Which I'm not going to now. I'm going to spend some time setting up for bub, spending alone time with DH and the cinema is another great idea-which I tried over the weekend and loved.

    I guess the thing for me is I didn't realise how lonely I would feel. It caught me by surprise how much I mourn my social life-especially when I've wanted this so bad for so long.

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    Quote Originally Posted by munchkin275 View Post
    We also had the discussion but it hasn't worked here lol

    In get lonely still but I don't mind being at home with my ds most of the time. I'm enjoying time with him that he is missing out on

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    Ughhh if I was honest-it was a discussion and locking him out in the cold that really made the impact lol. I'm also lucky the type of work he does, doesn't really allow for too much drinking often due to long hours! :P

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    Quote Originally Posted by meredithgrey View Post
    Time to find new friends. If you think it's isolating now, just wait until you have bub. These people aren't going to stick around and support you.

    I second the other suggestions of pregnancy yoga classes - meet like minded people!

    Are you doing antenatal classes? Find a couple of ladies that you click with and ask them out for coffee, it'll be an invaluable support once baby is born
    Great points @meredithgrey it makes me feel like such a bad friend considering all my other friends that have had babies and I carried on my life thinking they were fine and maybe they were just as lonely as I am now

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    Quote Originally Posted by meredithgrey View Post
    can you hang out with the other friends?
    I don't really have a lot to tell you the truth which is why I've found it kinda hard to find someone to hang with BUT I've started just texting friends and seeing what they're up to during the week and kind of hoping I get an invite that way which has worked on two occasions so far!


 

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