Last edited by Mmumm; 20-07-2014 at 12:38.
@Chillies, I think what @meredithgrey says about meeting women in antenatal classes is absolutely right. I met some wonderful women in a perinatal anxiety course I did a few months ago. We've been keeping in touch and arranging catch ups. I know it sounds like it might be all gloom and doom given how we met but I've actually found it empowering. This group of women really understand what each other has been going through and can relate to it from our own experiences. In many ways they can understand me much better than some of my friends that I've known for years. That's been a great help for me.
The funny thing is... When I was pregnant I only wanted to socialise with DP. We'd hang out with other people and I'd always just wish it was me and DP. Movies with DP were my favourite thing when I was pregnant.
There isn't really much of a solution if your mates are heavy drinkers and you don't want to do that with them but it's all they want to do.
I dont have tips either, but am feeling really lonely as well. We just moved interstate from Canberra to Cairns and I'm almost 37 weeks. We don't know a soul here, all our family and friends are scattered around and a lot of then literally just moved to Canberra as we left.
I'm fining it really isolating and pretty much impossible to be meeting people at this stage - the hospital classes have all already happened, I'm too tired and uncomfortable to join a yoga class or an aquarobics class etc. I miss working and having that interaction with people, and identity of myself. All of this plus finding my first stretch marks today has made me a bit of an emotional mess!
Actually I do have tips - do the yoga or exercise classes! I'd just started these in Canberra and started to meet a couple of lovely mums
I think the classes is a great idea! My ante natal classes haven't started as yet (still have 10 weeks to go!) but I did have a look on the gym website and found a couple of things I like-water aerobics and maybe just swimming in general
Actually reading my post back I am thinking why would I bother with these people? Which I'm not going to now. I'm going to spend some time setting up for bub, spending alone time with DH and the cinema is another great idea-which I tried over the weekend and loved.
I guess the thing for me is I didn't realise how lonely I would feel. It caught me by surprise how much I mourn my social life-especially when I've wanted this so bad for so long.
meredithgrey it makes me feel like such a bad friend considering all my other friends that have had babies and I carried on my life thinking they were fine and maybe they were just as lonely as I am now
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