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    Default I just want to share (partnered people welcome)

    You know what I think? I think he's broken and bruised and in a state that when anyone at all shows him kindness he's going to imprint on them and think they have a connection and that he's met someone. I don't think he's a jerk, I think he's healing, and when you're broken like that you don't always know what you're feeling properly iykwim.

    I agree with others who say keep well away, but it's not a reflection on you. I think he is going to keep 'passing over' women because every positive interaction is going to seem like it was meaningful and should therefore be explored. I also wouldn't be surprised if this new person doesn't pan out and he tries to come back to you/tries to confide in you about it.

    Obviously you know him better, but based on everything you've said it is hard to believe he is just a jerk after all.

    ETA @Bonezart did that muddled puddles thing come from your brain just then? If so, totally in awe of you...

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    Quote Originally Posted by harvs View Post

    ETA @Bonezart did that muddled puddles thing come from your brain just then? If so, totally in awe of you...
    Yes, it did I have moments where my rambles sometimes work out and make sense.


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    I once had a guy tell me he was going on a trip to Brazil so he wouldn't have to see me again. Then like a year later a guy told me he was going to Tibet ... Needless to say I was pretty wary of men for a long time (for that and many other reasons).

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    Quote Originally Posted by ScubaGal View Post
    I once had a guy tell me he was going on a trip to Brazil so he wouldn't have to see me again. Then like a year later a guy told me he was going to Tibet ... Needless to say I was pretty wary of men for a long time (for that and many other reasons).
    Sounds like they watched Friends and pulled a Chandler. Yemen.

    That sucks good thing they left, sounds like they had no balls so I can't imagine it would've been a good time.


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    I am of the "everything happens for a reason" school of thought, so I would like to think that maybe he wasn't meant for you to be long term but to get you comfortable opening up and be comfortable with the possibility with a relationship. I think he is probably in a very confused state with all that's going on in his life between his separation and feelings for you then having to back off from you for whatever reason he had then he meets this other girl, it would be a confusing time for anyone. If he is the one you are meant to be with then when the time is right you will cross paths again.

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    What a pig! You are far too good for him.

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    This just shows how mixed up he truly is. He's no way near ready for a relationship and I feel like he's been very unfair to you, even if that wasn't his intention.

    Please don't think it's you, because it's his issue, and very much his loss

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    I've been following but haven't posted in ages because well a) I don't know you like other members do and b) There was nothing else I could add....

    However, I do agree with everyone else in that he is either one seriously broken man, or he just a total douche. Do not let his issues sit on your shoulders...shake yourself off and understand that you just dodged a bullet. It's a good thing you didn't invest heaps of time in to this....you definitely deserve someone better, someone who will treat you right. He is not the one for you.

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    Thanks guys - I'll reply a little more personally later on. I know I shouldn't take this on as something wrong with me - but it's hard not to take it a little personally.

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    Do you think its maybe a case of 'He knows that he isnt ready for a relationship - but he cant seem to be able to keep away from you - so he is telling you something to make you hate him' ?

    I have doubts about the 'met someone else' story .. but I dont doubt that he isnt ready for a relationship

    and I dont doubt that he isnt even CLOSE to being good enough for you hun.

    You desere someone who will walk over broken glass just to be with you. Who worships the ground you walk on. Dont accept less


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