sorry that you have been caught up in this mess. Hopefully there is a happy ending to this story.
I've read since the beginning with hope in my heart for you xxx
I just want to offer one piece of advice , for you to take or leave.
If he has asked for space, then you're doing the right thing by doing that.
But whatever you do, don't end up as his rock. On the other end of the phone for hours talking because that's what HE needs. He can't have it both ways.
Make sure that what you're putting in, you're getting back.
Best of luck to you Op xx
I've also thought a bit today about the fact that if we were to have a relationship down the track I don't want it to be based on him coming and going as he pleases (although it's completely understandable given the current circumstances.) I think if he can find a bit of inner peace in regards to his failed marriage then we could base a relationship on 'us' rather then on me helping him through his emotions (which I'd do anyway but to a lesser scale.)
I have a habit of nurturing broken people ... I'm so rational and fair that I tend to help others see through their own heightened emotions. It's probably not a good foundation for the beginning of something.
I think I might be yabbering without making a lot of sense.
I really want to thank each and every one of you who've replied. Although I tend to be the 'counsellor' for my loved ones - I sometimes feel I don't have anyone who wants to listen to my own personal rumblings. I really appreciate this place for that x
Last edited by Theboys&me; 31-08-2014 at 20:34.
Yes absolutely - he needs to find his inner peace so that if something progresses with you guys, it's on equal footings.
I wish only good things for you Op ! And I concur - how good is this place for different opinions, ideas and support xx
I'm a lot like you op in relationships. I always fit in with other people. And if it comes naturally to you and it works for you there's nothing wrong with that. Just take the time to think about what needs you want met and make sure you get it. Rather than what other people tell you you should want or need if that makes sense?
Oh I felt so awkward tonight ... Went to the gym and he was there ... I wasn't sure what to do so I just pretty much ignored him :/
My friend said he kept looking at me. I feel so silly.
Last edited by Theboys&me; 02-09-2014 at 19:02.
chances are you will cross paths again. perhaps make a plan now for what you want to do. im sure he is also feeling a bit uncertain how to best respond. marie.
Be your fabulous self! That's all you need to do!
If you see him at the gym, smile and do your thing !
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