Ok so I'll update properly without a pathetic attempt at erotica writing
He came to visit me yesterday afternoon. We were both kid free and just hung out having a few drinks, chatting and ordering pizza for dinner. He ended up staying the night ... Which was nice.
I made us breakfast the next day and he called in sick to work (which he never does!! But we really didn't get a lot of sleep). We just cruised along for the day... Learning each other's stories, talking about our kids, just generally getting to know one another.
We had fish and chips at the beach and he stayed all afternoon until it was time to pick his kids up.
I'm completely leaving the pace of things up to him, but I get a sense he's quite into me. He wants to catch up again next chance and said he loves how I'm so different to his ex in every way that it really excites him getting to know me. He's quite open about his feelings and talks things out and he has said a few things that indicate he'd like us to start seeing each other.
I really like him, but as per usual ... The closer we get - the more my instinct to run and brush him off kicks in. It's not what I want at all (the running away) but it's almost become a habit for me. He's already locking in future 'dates' and asking if I'll do things with him (like go to the local islands, have a movie marathon night, etc.)
I wish I could knock down all my walls.... I thought I had... But I can feel myself getting edgy and without reason. He's a lovely guy with a beautiful heart. I feel like I deserve someone like him. I hope I can let him in.
Last edited by Theboys&me; 28-07-2014 at 22:38.
Oh my @Theboys&me, this is one of the best threads I've read in a long time! The girls all gave the advice that I would've about being honest, now do continue and please, let us know when this is being published and turned into a film! It's already better written than 50 Shades of Grey!
Just read your last update, trust your fellow Bub Hubbers, don't push him away. From what youve said he seems like a nice guy who could be good for you. I'm not just saying that because we like your updates!
I get how you feel TB&M. I think it's good to communicate that sort of stuff with him, like if you're feeling edgy or whatever, if you can bring yourself to. Unfortunately for me I have no filter, so I guess I would just be telling him how I felt whether he wanted to know or not :-) but by sharing those feelings, it can be a really gentle way of letting him in - like you are sharing the stuff that is relevant to the two of you iykwim, and as you get closer you can open those walls a little more. I hope it works out how you want it to :-)
Daisy Duck (29-07-2014)
Try not to push him away if you really like him. Either you like him or you don't, and it does sound like you do. He sounds lovely! Just follow your heart xx
All over red rover ...
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