It's now morning!
Sorry guys - I'm at work... I quickly jumped on while my kids are at religion - I promise to update ASAP!! I should've written it all down before I even posted!! Haha
Anyone else feeling nervous for the guy...he just had his first curry after all
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Well there were no explosions ... Well not the curry kind anyway
So I'll skip over the next part of the night in a bid to keep the 'throbbing manhood' to myself - but I was pleasantly surprising I managed to reach Mr O with Mr R after drinking (which never happens!!!! .... And I'm not subtly referring to a threes0me)
He stayed the night and we've been in contact daily since. So this is where the reason for my thread comes into play.
I actually like this guy. Like I've not thought of much since ... And I feel like he's turning me into a chicky chick. I'm the type who usually has a one night stand, loses interest if contact has remained and I just end up telling them I'm not ready for any commitment. I seem to attract men you are eager for a relationship and want much more than I have it in me to give.
He's called me three times during the week ... Which isn't excessive - it was after a couple of texts (which he hates doing) so called instead. I'm holding my cards to my chest ... But truth be told I feel like he could be the one to change my mind about men and relationships.
He mentioned that he'd told his mum about me and that he thinks I'm a positive influence on him. I've not confided anything in him about who I've told (imagine if he knew it was a whole parenting forum!!!)
I'm playing it cool, not texting or calling just letting him initiate contact. Not to play a game or mislead ... But because he is just recently separated... Like only a couple of months ago. He is still on quite an emotional roller coaster in terms of his feelings towards his ex and I completely understand that. The marriage ended due to her infidelity so I can imagine he still loves her and feels a huge amount of anger and loss. I can remember my head space that early on and it was so so hard. I want to let him approach this at his own pace as I'm well aware that he is hurting and needs to work through his emotions before even contemplating embarking on a new adventure with someone else.
The thing is ... I'm also aware of the fact that my reluctance to contact him may come off as me being disinterested. I'm trying to tread a line between giving him the time he needs to work through his fairly new situation and also not wanting to put him off or give him the idea I want up keep him at arms length (which is my usual groove).
I agree, it may come off as if you are disinterested so I think you should make the first contact at least one time. Even if it's light hearted banter. I think it's pretty clear that he is interested so you need to show him too.
Its an exciting time so enjoy it. Don't worry too much about what he is thinking. Just do what you want - you deserve it.
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