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    I'm pretty sure I p!ss a lot of people off ... I often invite just adults - not only that - I often invite just girl friends and expect them to leave their hubbys at home!!

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    No I don't expect them to be invited to everything but I do expect those people to understand if I can't make it because of that.


    Me + DP 01.03.2010 = DD 22.02.2011 + DS 20.01.2014 = <3

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    Quote Originally Posted by LiterallyNoOne View Post
    No I don't expect them to be invited to everything but I do expect those people to understand if I can't make it because of that.


    Me + DP 01.03.2010 = DD 22.02.2011 + DS 20.01.2014 = <3

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    Quote Originally Posted by Theboys&me View Post
    I'm pretty sure I p!ss a lot of people off ... I often invite just adults - not only that - I often invite just girl friends and expect them to leave their hubbys at home!!
    lol I pee off my own husband with this.. he expects to go everywhere with me so sometimes i have to remind him no.. this is my outing you stay home lol

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    Not every event is child friendly or child appropriate. Some events would be so boring and it would be akin to stuffing my child in a sack for 4 hour so there are occassions where it would be best not to take her and put her through that.

    We had a family reunion a few years ago and there were as many kids as there were adults. That was great for a party in a shed with a paddock to run around in, at a wedding, no, not a great idea.
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    Quote Originally Posted by anewme View Post
    I expect my kids to invited because it is the normal in our circle of friends and family. I haven't been invited to a adults only event other a graduation or awards night which to me are different. So it would surprise me if I was. It doesn't mean I would have a hissy fit and act like a child. I would just be shocked. I don't leave young kids with a babysitter. So I just wouldn't go.
    This does not make me rude or childish or self centered.

    Each to their own.



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    I didn't say you were self centered. I thought I made it clear in my post but when I said childish and self-centred I was referring to people who chuck a tanty over their kids not being invited.

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    Quote Originally Posted by harvs View Post
    Yeah I have to say this self centred thing is making me feel a bit prickly. For me, I definitely wouldn't have a hissy if I was invited to an adults only event. However, as I said, for me, those in my close circle know that DS and I are kind of a package deal, through reality and not choice on my part. So, when I said I would feel hurt, it's because that by knowing that, they are essentially making a choice for me not to go and share in their celebration.

    I definitely respect their right to make those choices, and I don't *expect* them not to. If my circumstances were different then I wouldn't have any feelings about it at all. But they're not, unfortunately. I think self centred would be feeling hurt and demanding that I bring my DS, which I would never ever do.
    Absolutely this. If people are aware of your own personal circumstances but maintain their stance then ultimately they don't care enough to have you there, and that's what hurts. People are allowed to be upset and hurt without being selfish.

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    Quote Originally Posted by thepouts View Post
    Absolutely this. If people are aware of your own personal circumstances but maintain their stance then ultimately they don't care enough to have you there, and that's what hurts. People are allowed to be upset and hurt without being selfish.
    But what's the solution? If we want to have a dinner at a 5 star not child friendly restaurant for a significant birthday do children have to be considered? Look I get that people don't have baby sitters on tap (we certainly don't!) but the world still turns and people are entitled to organise their lives around what they want to do.

    I really don't know what the answer is. DH and I have missed so many things over the years through having kids but I just see that as a by product of how we choose to live our lives, not something that needs to be factored into every one else's decisions. .

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    I don't expect my kids to be invited, doesn't phase me if they're not, but it just means I can't go. I expect my friends to be OK with that and not hound me to find babysitters.

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