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hugs, can't imagine how hard this is but I really respect your resolve to put you and your kids and hubby first. It takes great strength to stand up to people like your inlaws. Keep your head held high xo
And you're right, id much rather we get by the way we have been and do it on our own rather than rely on them. We just gotta keep telling ourselves it will happen in due time, when its right for us.
I just can't wait until they are told now so i know it's done with and we can move on from it.
Also just to add to what kind of man FIL is - he also had the authorities turn up on his door step recently because he is a extremely racist man and apparently would regularly go online and sprout hateful racist rubbish. Apparently he is that bad that they traced him and knocked on his door for a stern word!!!!
Its so bizarre too - MIL is Indian, so DH is half Indian. FIL has called DH many racist names all of his life, and also used to make him walk around naked and would laugh at his penis when he was only about 3 years old. DH actually remembers that! But that's a whole different thread yet again. Ugh. Why oh why are they even in our lives again dammit DH!!
Hope it goes ok tonight when he tells them!
No amount of money is EVER worth your happiness, sanity and peace of mind. There are some things money can't buy. Your husband may be angry at his parents for the different treatment but at least every decision you make is YOURS and not coloured by any influence from these lunatics.
Your gut is spot on..always follow your intuition!
Last edited by hangingupsidedown; 15-07-2014 at 19:35.
So DH called them and told them - he spoke to MIL and very nicely explained to her we can't afford any loans right now and that he wants them to keep the money for their retirement so they can live comfortable. He worded it in a way that us saying no is for their benefit ...He said she sounded very disappointed, and tried to tell him they insist and tried to talk him into it, but he explained that we're just better off not signing up to anything else right now as we can't be certain we can pay it all back. That seemed to shoosh her up then. Long story short it went better than we thought ... i just hope we don't get another phone call later tonight now after MIL spoke to FIL about our decision with him roaring in the background which is what usually happens when things don't go their way.
DH told me he feels a massive weight off his shoulders now. You all really did bring a lot to light for us!!
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Haven't read all the posts but I would borrow money off them to landscape the front and then pay it back if you can afford it once you have moved.
I wouldnt take their money! Be very careful that they cant claim they are investors in your property if thinga go sour. I would get some paperwork written up personally.
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