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    I had a falling out with my nutbar father, didn't talk for years and at some point he told me he had cut me out of his will. We talk again now but I have no idea if I am in his will again. I don't ask because I don't care. Money from him always came with strings attached and I'd rather have nothing. Removing any concern over inheritance means I can base the relationship entirely in the present. Sorry, it's sort of hard to explain but it sort of makes me feel free from him.

    My point is, being written out of a will isn't necessarily a bad thing. You can't put a price on happiness.

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    OP, I'm so glad your DH has seen some sense. It's crucial when it comes to such huge financial matters that you are both on the same page.

    Let us know how he goes after he tells them he isn't lending the money. I'm sure their reaction will speak volumes about their character.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Meld85 View Post
    wow I cant believe you have put up with these nut jobs all these times...then halfway through I realised you were the one with the crazy neighbour and I just really felt bad for you.

    Is it an option to borrow the money and put it in a term deposit??? At least if they start getting the way you think then you can just break the term and give it back and tell them (nicely) to suck it....
    Yeah sorry I changed my username on here. Felt like something different but then realised afterwards people may not know I am the one with the psycho neighbor haha! So yeah that's me.

    I think its best to just say no from the get-go.... I can't even begin to imagine the mess of trying to deal with them later on with it, if things were to not work out. Id rather avoid it all together. If they were normal rational respectful people, then that would be a awesome idea.... but yeah from my experience its really best to keep them at arms length.

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    Whoops that would teach me for not reading through the threads properly...really sick kiddies at the moment....my idea was if it was upsetting your hubby so much maybe another idea but didnt read that he agreed not to take the loan at all which is a much better idea!!!!

    It was funny I was reading it thinking 'this poor woman should speak to the other poor woman with the nutbag neighbour...' surely you have enough craziness in your life....

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    Quote Originally Posted by Degrassi View Post
    OP, I'm so glad your DH has seen some sense. It's crucial when it comes to such huge financial matters that you are both on the same page.

    Let us know how he goes after he tells them he isn't lending the money. I'm sure their reaction will speak volumes about their character.
    I definitely will!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Stretched View Post
    I had a falling out with my nutbar father, didn't talk for years and at some point he told me he had cut me out of his will. We talk again now but I have no idea if I am in his will again. I don't ask because I don't care. Money from him always came with strings attached and I'd rather have nothing. Removing any concern over inheritance means I can base the relationship entirely in the present. Sorry, it's sort of hard to explain but it sort of makes me feel free from him.

    My point is, being written out of a will isn't necessarily a bad thing. You can't put a price on happiness.
    Yep know exactly what you mean and completely agree.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Meld85 View Post
    Whoops that would teach me for not reading through the threads properly...really sick kiddies at the moment....my idea was if it was upsetting your hubby so much maybe another idea but didnt read that he agreed not to take the loan at all which is a much better idea!!!!

    It was funny I was reading it thinking 'this poor woman should speak to the other poor woman with the nutbag neighbour...' surely you have enough craziness in your life....
    Oh we all do it hun, all good!! Yeah it was upsetting him but now that i was able to go back to him with some solid points he has thankfully seen it from my side.... otherwise i would have had to look into other options like the one you suggested. I am so bloody clueless with all of this stuff lol!

    Sorry to hear your kids aren't well!

    Haha yeah im the same woman with the ridiculous drama filled life

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    Quote Originally Posted by Degrassi View Post
    OP, I'm so glad your DH has seen some sense. It's crucial when it comes to such huge financial matters that you are both on the same page.

    Let us know how he goes after he tells them he isn't lending the money. I'm sure their reaction will speak volumes about their character.
    One thing i am 100% certain they will say when he tells them, is that we are putting their grandson in danger by living here because of crazy neighbor. They have been really milking the hell we went through with the neighbor, but not for our sake - for theirs. They have constantly told us we should buy in the same suburb as they have bought so they can be sure we are keeping their grandchildren safe since we are stupid and chose to first buy in this area. I can just see this discussion will happen. Because we bought in this area we're currently in they constantly hold it against us now to win their arguments, and put our opinions down as not valid because to them we have proven we 'don't have a clue'

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    Absolutely think you have made the right decision.

    From what I understand gifted money still counts in the centerlink asset test, so your decision to not take the money won't make a scrap of difference to their eligibility for a pension (if that's their ploy).

    It sucks that your SIL may get more than your hubby, but you know what, at the end of the day, you can say you made your own way in life and what an excellent example to set for your children.

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