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    I would be furious. I get that some ppl chose to have no kids at their wedding and it's their choice. But I would be livid that nieces and nephews are not invited to a destination wedding. In your own town/city then it's reasonable to think a babysitter could be rounded up.

    My bil and sil wanted a kid free reception at a destination site but yet dd1 was a flower girl. Dh and I had only dd1 aged14mths. I said that if dd1 wasn't invited to the reception there was no point me flying down at all. Dh also then declined to go. They had to back track as dh was a groomsman and mil and fil were furious.

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    Hugs op.

    I HATE child free weddings. I don't go to them. It is just that simple.

    In saying that it's their day and they get to make the rules to who is and isn't invited. And that is the way it should be.

    Please don't let it ruin your relationship. In the big scheme of things it not worth that. My fil died on Friday and he and some of his kids didn't talk to 20 years. They only made a month before he died. They all regretted that. Their kids didn't get to really know their grandpa before he died. It is very sad.



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    You see just because we have kids does not mean we get to call the shots at other peoples weddings.
    You are taking this very personally when it's simply how they want it. Two people without kids are getting married and (shocker) they don't want kids there.
    It's actually better for the kids too, saves them being bored and up late in an atmosphere where adults are drinking alcohol etc.
    It's very immature if you choose not to speak with them after this. I'd try get over it pretty quickly and send an apology text ASAP.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rose&Aurelia View Post

    My bil and sil wanted a kid free reception at a destination site but yet dd1 was a flower girl. Dh and I had only dd1 aged14mths. I said that if dd1 wasn't invited to the reception there was no point me flying down at all. Dh also then declined to go. They had to back track as dh was a groomsman and mil and fil were furious.
    So your DD was flower girl at the wedding then not invited to the reception.... at a destination wedding What did they expect you do with a 14 month old in another city or even country?

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    I really empathize with you OP - I find it really odd that they wouldn't want their godchildren at their wedding but are inviting other kids. That being said, its their wedding day and its up to them what they want to do. If it was my family I would be annoyed but would recognize that it's their day and try to find someone to watch my kids.

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    My opinion is that if someone wants to have a child free wedding and invite people witj children - then they have to accept that people may politely decline because of that.

    A but hard when its your brother I know

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    I'm sorry your in this position, please don't let it ruin your relationship with them. I'm probably going to be shot but it's their wedding, they can decide to fly to the moon if they want.

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    If it's so important that it be their day, why get married with an audience? why not elope? then it really is all about the bride and groom.

    I really don't get people hosting and event and not considering their guests (I mean the important guests not necessarily the looser relationships) needs. If I host an event, I want people to be comfortable, enjoy themselves. I don't just think `it's all about me, bugger anyone else and their situations'. After all, I assume I love the people I am inviting to celebrate with.

    I really don't get it.

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    My sister is having a destination wedding in Oct and if my kids weren't invited, DH would have to stay home with them :/ I'm a bridesmaid
    They are the only kids invited - otherwise it would be a child free wedding. We have a dd with a disability and frankly don't trust anyone to look after her and her brothers for 3 nights & days

    I wouldn't cut them out of your life - talk to both of them when things settle. If there's no room to budge then leave it be. it's their day and you have to respect that. but in return they'd need to understand you have kids to take care of xx

    can you bring a babysitter and the kids with you, book a second room for the baby sitter?

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    Quote Originally Posted by NoteToSelf View Post
    If it's so important that it be their day, why get married with an audience? why not elope? then it really is all about the bride and groom.

    I really don't get people hosting and event and not considering their guests (I mean the important guests not necessarily the looser relationships) needs. If I host an event, I want people to be comfortable, enjoy themselves. I don't just think `it's all about me, bugger anyone else and their situations'. After all, I assume I love the people I am inviting to celebrate with.

    I really don't get it.
    Completely agree. We got married before kids and invited our families kids. We wanted our guests to be happy too. But I think weddings have become platforms for demanding people to become even more demanding sadly. I'm a bit of a modern wedding grinch lol

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