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    Default Working full time and lack of sleep

    Just looking for other full time working mums for advice. Ds is almost 10 months and wakes frequently overnight (3-4hourly) how do you cope with working full time and lack of sleep
    At the moment I am working 20hours a week and struggling physically and emotionally with the lack of sleep. I dont get a lot of help from dp at night.
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    Have a word to your boss, mine could see when I was struggling. I went back f/t when DD was 5mo. I was able to do some work from home, which meant that I could do paperwork in my own sweet time (in pjs) which was a help as those few morning sleep ins meant I could cope with being up during the night. He could either allocate you work or you can keep a diary. Depending what you do for a job, maybe you could swap/trade off a few tasks with someone else??

    I had an agreement with DH that he would do any late night or early morning stuff but I would do overnight stuff. When you know where you stand, you don't get as frustrated with eachother. You will both be tired, there is no avoiding that part.

    I also moved to a different work unit (via interview process so I own a cushy spot) away from the high intensity stuff, but after mat leave I will be back amongst it as I am letting another woman on light duties do my old cushy role till she starts mat leave. Its nice having the option but it took a lot of organising to get sorted.

    Any good boss should know that they get more work/moneys worth out of happy staff. Hope you have an understanding one!!!

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    Hugs, it's really, really tough.

    I went back to working a 38 hour week when my DS was 7 months old. I'd often go to work on 4 hours of broken sleep. Some of my coping mechanisms were:

    - I always get a large coffee in my way to work. It's my little treat.
    - only do what you HAVE to do in the evenings. Leave the housework till later/for the weekend.
    - get your DH/DP to help around the house, this makes a big difference IMO. My DH always does the dishes, I cook and leave everything for him to clean up!! He does other housework too.
    - easy meals, sometimes I make several meals on the weekend.
    - try and get some 'me' time on the weekend and once your little one is in bed in the evenings. Just sit.
    - I constantly tell myself this won't last forever.

    Good luck. You can do it, it just takes time to adjust to your new routine.

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    I went back to a very full on senior position full time when dd2 was 9 months old. I was also studying my Masters by distance with a fifo DH. DD2 is 18mths old now (DD1 is 6yo so a good help). All I can say is routine, routine, routine. Prep lots of meals, cook on weekends and freeze so you can blend for the kids, let the housework slide (its not forever) use help when its offered. Dont be hard on yourself - it is bl00dy hard work! I used "comfort crying" at 12 mths of age with dd2 successfully (not for everyone I know) and after 2 nights she was sleeping through most nights - or having a grizzle that I didnt need to attend to. She us teething now so sometimes needs some comfort and panadol/nurofen at night. Good luck, this stage will pass. xx

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    I went back full time when DS was 7 months. He was still waking 2-3 times a night but luckily that has improved and he's now sleeping 7-6. My DP and I did alternate nights and I was lucky that he dropped his work to 3 days a week. I also made sure that I had a meal plan for the full week and had a couple of nights of leftovers so we didn't have to cook every night.

    I generally don't clean beyond the basics. I have a cleaner that comes in once a fortnight so not much else happens between times. I would thoroughly recommend that. I also get a gardener when I need to despite only having a small courtyard because I'm not one of those people who find gardening enjoyable.

    I have a very understanding boss and a great team at work - I don't think that I'm doing what I used to before I had DS even after 7 months of being back but they don't seem to mind too much. In fact, my 2IC is loving the extra responsibility that she's being given and some days I feel like I don't need to be there at all!

    I'll say one thing though, working full time does make me value the time I have with DS more. I genuinely don't remember how I used to fill up my weekends before!

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    I slept in the car at lunch time

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    Yeah it's really tough some days. I have a 2 year old but he rarely sleeps through and I am up at 6am and out by 7am on work days to do drop off and be at work by 8am. And then do it all in the evening as my husband doesn't get back till around 7pm usually.

    I have a coffee when I get to work and I also go to bed around 9.30 or 10pm at the very latest.

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    I went back when Bub was 7 months I did 3 x 10 hr shifts starting 6am I really struggled ! Since then hubby and I separated and Bub is with me most the time and teething at moment so with child support and some centrelink payments I could afford to drop to 2 days a week which I did and it's the best thing I've done . I find I enjoy work more and I'm most the time not as tired . I plan on doing more hours once she is in child care and sleeping better

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    Thanks everyone. Dp and I are at loggerheads over my working. He expects me to work full time. I feel like I never get to spend time with ds as it is. I guess you jist adapt

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    Quote Originally Posted by Me&Smooches View Post
    Thanks everyone. Dp and I are at loggerheads over my working. He expects me to work full time. I feel like I never get to spend time with ds as it is. I guess you jist adapt

    Sounds like he needs to have some time as the primary carer to road test his stupid idea. It can work but you need serious teamwork and a lot of resources and impromptu babysitters at hand. Must be nice to breeze through life with such uncomplicated thinking!!!!

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