So ds aged 7 will not sleep in his own bed. He goes to his dad's and his dad won't allow him to come into his bedroom until he himself is out of bed. Ds is also ok having the occasional sleep over at a friends house. DS tells me he is too scared to be in his bed as 'he thinks someone is going to break in and take him'. Ds has been seeing a child psych who sees I need to be stricter about making him sleep in his bed and I have tried the reward chart and a points system but neither thing has changed his behaviour. If I put him in his bed, read to him and then tell him to sleep but I will check on him in 5 minutes he either gets out of bed to find me, cries/screams or turns the light back on and lays there. I have night lights in his room and the hallway and he is only 5 steps from my bedroom. It's now disturbing my 2 year old and i'm going batty. This is going on since September last year and since then he has slept maybe 3 nights in his bed. If he wakes up at night he yells for me to come and get him. Even during the day he wants me to take him to the toilet or into another room if he wants something. The child psych says this is fine and I just need to let him cry/sob. I find that hard and kind of mean. Any other suggestions would be great.
Also, is the fear of someone taking him a normal 7 yo fear? He says he's not worried anywhere else, just at home. His dad once saw him in a shop and picked up and took him away from the people he was with. I know that incident upset my son who said at the time he was frightened that his dad would take him and not give him back but he says his night time fear is not related to that incident.