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    Hi Op.

    sorry you're having such a rough time with your nb. I completely understand as my first baby was so, so, so hard. I've since had another baby (only 8 weeks old) and I kid you not, she is textbook (aside from her inability to bf) but I will take 5 of her over what I had to go through with DS. I also suffered horrible pnd with DS so that made things 100 times worse.

    how do you feel within yourself. Sleep deprivation is horrific and was the crux of my pnd. i just want to make sure you are looking after yourself as best you can atm. My DS never slept. ever. Total 1-2 hours max in a day on a good day, broken up in 10-20 minute lots. And I was up on the hour overnight - roughly 5-6 times for 12 weeks. Was very rough so I read through your posts and can completely understand.

    I see youre in brisbane, have you looked into having a week stay at nurture centre if you have phi. I went their recently with dd to help with her feeding. You need a referral from a dr, either you're ob or pead or GP. Or When you go to child health ask to get put on the list for Ellen Barron too if you think a week stay will help you. I did this and got into nurture centre within a week, I got bumped up the list as a priority cos it was bf issues. Ellen Barron had a 3 week wait so I chose nurture centre.

    I really think a week stay with supportive nurses will help you greatly. You will learn settling tips, they can maybe pinpoint specific issues wit your ds (a pead checks babies over on arrival) and youll be able to get a lot more rest.
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    I was told that ellen barron & the nurture centre use controlled crying & im not into that.

    Im also anxious about going to a resi centre without dh due to how I was treated by the midwives at the hospital during the nights. Im still trying to get over that & I dont think I could deal with any more judgement & being treated like that

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    I understand, i really do. My first hospital experience with ds was awful. I felt I also received very, vey substandard care (in a private hospital). This was also some of my issues in getting pnd as I had horrible feeding problems with DS and was not supported at all. we were discharged with a baby not latching and feeding at all and told to hire a pump. i made a complaint to the hospital as was suggested by my psyclogist as a way of healing from my experience. I actually had PTSD (and pnd) from the whole experience birth, postnatally and what happened when we got home. DS literally cried for 19 hours a day. I was an absolute mess.

    I have been to both Ellen Barron and nurture centre. They use "responsive settling". You can elect to do only what you are comfortable with. For a baby as young as yours it will be hands on settling, I promise. Some mums used CIO but that's what they elected to do personally.

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    Your experience sounds similar to mine - I was discharged with a baby who wouldnt latch properly, bleeding nipples & after seeing the hospital lc once who just told me to get nipple shields & a pump. I was made to feel stupid & like a terrible mother cause I wasnt able to hand express & cause I didnt think I could bear the agony of feeding ds on bleeding nipples - therefore one night I gave him formula & they made me sign something each feed basically saying they werent responsible for any ill effects he suffered from recieving formula. I cried every feed that night because of it. Then a midwife cracked it at me & said I couldnt mix feed & that I either had to switch to formula permenantly or toughen up & breatfeed cause 'it always hurts & everyone else deals with it'. So I continued breastfeeding & made my nipples even worse, which is why they are still healing.

    Im proud of myself to still be breastfeeding after that but its still hard & now the thought of resi & day programs causes me a lot of anxiety

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    I really think you would benefit from seeing a IBLC independent board certified lactation consultant. It sounds very obvious from your symptoms and nipple trauma that his "mild tongue tie" they diagnosed is causing issues.

    I know you said you saw a LC but not all are IBLC and not all specialise in ties.

    There is a very knowledgable group on Facebook that could help you with finding a IBLC in your area.

    Let me know if you want the details,

    I had 6 weeks of cracked bleeding nipples my dd was so colicky and unsettled it was a nightmare, she had her tongue tie revised in the first week but her lip tie keit re-cracking my nipples


 

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