One's issues with being a stay at home mother are not fixed by switching channels/the tv off, changing clothes and putting on make up.
I've been a SAHM for 8 years now, and most likely will be for another 4 years. I f***ing hate it. Sure, it was great and I loved it once upon a time. But now? The repetitive routine, lack of adult interaction and good conversation has just driven me insane. Parenting is hard work. Damn hard work, and as much as I love my children, being somewhat isolated from the everyday world of work is really hard.
I chose to be a SAHM for the benefit of my family, but that doesn't mean that I have to love it. I am making a sacrifice for my family because that's what we felt was best, but what is best for them, isn't necessarily what is best for me, and therefore, it is absolutely okay to not like what I am doing, after so many years.
And y'know what? It doesn't matter whether I stay in my PJ's all day, or dress up like I'm spending the day out in town, whether I wear a full face of make up or not. My feelings stay the same. It doesn't matter whether my children are plonked in front of TV shows that I detest, they are outside playing happily together, or we are doing a family activity, ultimately, my feelings remain. I can be socialising with good friends, or stuck at story time with parents I don't get along with. My feelings remain the same.
Sometimes, it doesn't matter what you do, how you look or who you associate with, your feelings about decisions you have made, aren't always positive. And you know what? That is absolutely AOK.
It's okay to not like being a SAHM. It's okay to say it out loud. It's okay to complain and whinge about a choice you made, whether willingly or begrudgingly. It's okay to not be happy with where you are but continue to do it anyway if you feel it's best for those around you. It's absolutely okay to say 'I don't like it, it sucks'. It's not judgement on other people. It's not suggesting that it is the same for everyone. It is simply saying 'hey, y'know what? Sometimes, it's not great, being a SAHM is not for everyone, and that's okay'.
You shouldn't need to feel, or be made to feel guilty for feeling that way. You shouldn't need to feel as though you should be grateful to have something when so many others want it, but can't have it. Ones own feelings are just that, their own, and it's okay. It's okay to put it into words the dissatisfaction you feel for the life you currently lead.