I posted this in another thread but thought it relevant here too. I can cope with doing it all on my own and not getting as much as what I wanted done but it makes it so much worse getting criticised ! DH has very physical job and is tired he comes home and if he sees toys scattered will pick em up then start grumbling how I spoil kids letting them have toys ??? Then does a huff while changing DS nappy as I'm breastfeeding and didn't change him before hand. And then says don't worry darling look I'm helping you, I think yes and your writing it down too. have a 5 year old, 3andhalf yr old, nearly 2 year old, 7 month old n I'm preg. all at home with me no school or care and I get the hmmm look from inlaws and husbands family when they do a surprise drop by during the day like my house should be sparkling! I don't stop and I get my house looking sparking only for it to be undone in 5 min and when I mention that to DH family they say really why are your kids like that - and it rubs off on DH and drops comments about the house arrrrg @&);4"?