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    Default What age gaps are better?

    Do you find having kids with closer age gaps better to ones with over a yr between?
    And how many kids do you have ?

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    I can't help with the close age gap but I have 4 years between mine and love it! Wasn't planned that way, we started trying pretty much as soon as DD1 was born but wasn't that easy. But I have found the bigger gap good because DD1 understands when I tell her why I can't drop everything and give into her every needs like she was used to. She gets that a baby needs a lot of time. Where as I don't know she would have if she were younger?

    But I also imagine there would be massive pro's to having them close together, I like the idea of having 2 so close in age they'd be best friends. I want to fall pregnant again now but DH isn't as keen so I imagine we'll have another big gap between our second and third.

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    I have 16 months between my boys (who are 2.5 and just over 1) and it's been hard work!!! But I figure once they are both out of nappies and a bit older it should get easier.

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    2.5yrs apart


    Pros-
    - they're two boys, aged 2 and 4.5yrs now, they have heaps of fun playing together.
    - they'll be in school together quicker (avoid two drop offs at Childcare and the high school age. )


    Cons- I have two home now, if I waited one more year to have ds2,then ds1 would be at school this year. It's hard work having two at home!

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    I have 4 years beteeen my two (not on purpose) but I actually really like it even though I originally thought it would be to big a gap. I really don't think I could have handled a smaller gap like originally planned.
    But my idea of a perfect age gap is different from someone else's.

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    4yrs 9months between my two and I love it so far. Ds is besotted with his baby sister and there has not been even a hint of jealousy. He keeps telling me she is perfect the way she is and doesn't want her to grow bigger, lol.

    We are planning a third, but will be aiming for a closer gap this time. Only really because we don't want to drag out the baby phase too long.

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    I have two years, five months between DD and DS1 and three years, nine months between DS1 and DS2. Both gaps seem to have worked well - they all get on pretty well!

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    What about those who have 3 or more kids?

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    I have 6 kids over 20 years. Smallest gap is 17 mths and the biggest 6 yrs.
    All gaps have their good and bad points. Mine are better than the other in my books.

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    Twelve months and ten days between my boys (now. 20mths and. 8mths)

    Bloody hard work to begin with but love it in general and wouldn't do a gap any bigger then 18mths max.

    Far more pros then cons


 

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